Ary Gomes

… not marriage is it, he should let her go and move on. Not because he doesn’t love her, but because people deserve to have their needs met in their relationships without being made to feel guilty for it, and it is black women who need to hear this the most.

I couldn’t say why. But walking this little dog was a kind of magic. The most quietly, strangely intense thing I’d done in ages. Yes, really. I thought walking a dog was…just walking. But it was something much more like communicating, relating, discovering, sharing, knowing, feeling. It was as true as a summer day. The little guy was trying, I saw, to show me all his favourite places. This mailbox, that lamp post, this patch of earth. And not a single word had to be spoken. Nothing had to be said. What the? After that, the little guy followed me around me everywhere. He stayed up with me all night. He became my best friend for a week. And I was surprised to find myself becoming his friend too.

Se a pessoa se comporta de maneira que você interpreta como paixão e não é isso que você quer, fale. Se a pessoa se comporta de maneira que você interpreta como paixão e é isso que você quer, fale também. Nada deve ser presumido. O óbvio não existe. As coisas em si só têm os valores e significados que atribuímos a elas. E, muitas vezes, os valores e significados que atribuímos a certas coisas são completamente diferentes dos atribuídos pela pessoa com quem nos relacionamos.