Connecting through Slut Shaming?

Recently, I went out to lunch with a group of twenty to forty-year-old, first generation Canadians. The group was discussing the disconnect we often feel with our older immigrant generation. One of the males at the table shared how he had discovered the key to a connection which transcended our generational differences. One way was to make inappropriate jokes then gauge his male audience’s reaction. Another was to discuss topics that the older generation was interested in. He casually laughed as he told us his other tip to connect- gossip. He used the example of outing his female cousin for being a “slut.”

I was in shock and disgust. The lunch table was predominantly seated with women yet nobody said a word against him. What was even more disturbing was that this man’s wife and daughter were there too. He continued with his story and how it helped him establish a connection with his family member. After leaving the lunch I was highly perturbed by what I had just heard. How did this male think it was OK to discuss a female’s sexuality or to label her a “slut”?

Why should women’s sexuality be oppressed? Why does our society label women as “sluts” when they are sexually expressive? Who defines the term “slut”? Why are men bragging about their own acts of slut shaming? What is the best way to educate someone who engages in these anti-feminist ways?

These are all questions which this encounter has forced me to contemplate. Let me know what you think!

More to come on this topic later.

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