It’s been my experience that If you cause trouble for one woman — just one woman, one time — there’s always the chance that that’s it for you. You’re ‘unreliable’. You’re a ‘troublemaker’. You are To Be Avoided.
But then again, I’m a nurse. I can promise you I’ve seen more sexism than you have. My point is, people, not men, can be abusive. Speaking out is very important. Avoiding the trap of becoming the very thing you hate is even more so.