Your correct that both sexes compete. To clarify, females tend to compete for sympathy. Of course, I’m speaking in typical terms, and all that flies out the window when men get a common cold. We stereo-typically want sympathy then, but not when it comes to being a victim. We hide that sh!t.
We all compare “battle scars” in a way to one up each other. Remember this. Men do it with scars and xrays, women do it with tales of horror and abuse. Both genders have members that lie and exaggerate.