My Therapist Says

Excavating those ‘little t’ traumas has helped me chip away at the bigger ones

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When I first started going to therapy at 19, I had a pretty good idea of the traumas I wanted to excavate: divorce, parental addiction, eviction — the “big T” traumas that are easy to define in a word.

I used to think the only reason to go to therapy was to talk about trauma like this. I sat in the offices of half a dozen therapists, balling wet Kleenex in my hand and sipping on lukewarm chamomile tea in paper cups, while trying to get them to talk about these big things and changing the subject whenever they wanted…

Sophia June

Culture writer and news assistant at The New York Times, with words in NYT, NYLON and Pitchfork. Writing about things I like at https://freepizza.substack.com/

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