Yum: A Bite-Sized and Nourishing Homeschooling Strategy

Daydreaming is underrated.

If what you’re doing since school closed is working for you, stop reading! There is not one right way to homeschool. In fact, that is one of homeschooling’s strengths — flexibility to meet the varied needs of individual members of a family. Carry on!

But, if you find yourself anxious or struggling, stretched thin by having the kids home full time and maybe also having to work remotely, I’m suggesting this strategy. Take what you like, and leave the rest.

The idea of having to reproduce what school has provided in the past can be daunting. First, it’s important to acknowledge that a lot of a day at school is filled with classroom management, not something a parent at home with their own kids needs to spend time on. So let’s slash those six hours a day to 90 minutes. Next, let’s assume those 90 minutes of “structured learning time”* can happen anytime, day or night, weekday or weekend, and that on one day you can spend more than 90 minutes, and on another day you might spend none of the 90 allocated minutes. You can do all 90 minutes in one sitting so to speak, or split them up over the course of several days.

The 90 minutes includes:

• Thirty minutes of reading aloud from picture books or chapter books or nonfiction books or anything really (cookbooks, instructions, newspaper articles). Child’s choice. During this time kids can sit on a lap and listen, or draw, act out the story, do somersaults on the floor, whatever floats their boat. Feel free to stop and discuss as you go, or answer questions when they come up. It is fine to reread a book many times, or access new reads from your public library’s eBook collection. Oh, and graphic novels and listening to audiobooks count as reading.
• Thirty minutes of playing a game. A board or card game can be completed in one sitting, or you can leave it set up and return to it for days or even weeks. Many parlor games don’t require any equipment at all. Or maybe an outside yard or sidewalk game is called for to burn off some steam (given you can maintain social distancing).
• Thirty minutes of making something, or learning a new skill. Maybe this will be cooking or baking. Maybe it will be learning to sew. Maybe it will be concocting homemade playdough. Maybe it will be building with blocks or sticks. Maybe it will be playing music or singing together. Maybe it will be doing the laundry or starting seeds for the garden. Share an interest or skill you have, or ask your child to teach you something.

The 90 minutes is meant to be spent all together, not per child. Aim to interest the oldest child, and rest assured the younger ones will be fine coming along for the ride. And if someone doesn’t want to take part, don’t push it. No power struggles.

If you find that in the course of reading or cooking or sewing your child catches a bug and wants to read all of a series, or invent their own recipes, or learn about the science of cooking, or contribute to a community drive to donate homemade face masks, or in any way dig more deeply into a subject, let them run with it! And if they tire of it, just go back to your 90 minutes and see what arises next.

Leave available at all times whatever supplies you have for art, music, and reading lying about. Audiobooks are great accompaniments to crafting or building, as are podcasts for kids. Of course have available games, puzzles, dress up, and toys, and let free play rule! Conversation that happens between family members over the course of a day counts for a lot. And another pastime, daydreaming, is underrated.

Try to be flexible, and if you realize anyone is stressed, stop and breathe. If the strategy is not working, change the strategy, as many times as you need to. If at the end of a week, you haven’t amassed the equivalent of 90 minutes a day of these activities, wipe the slate clean and start over. And take note — if it works to read for all 90 minutes and not play games or make things, go with that flow. If you can only manage 30 or 60 minutes, that’s fine. Be kind to yourself. This idea is meant to give you a framework to help make your homeschooling easier and less stressful, not more.

Some of the millions of possible ways this could play out:

• Family A wakes up, completes 90 minute schedule, rest of the day is spent as each wishes.
• Family B members wake up at different times, eat breakfast randomly, pursue varying interests or obligations over the course of the day, make dinner together, play a game after dinner, and then read aloud before bed.
• Family C wakes up, makes and eats breakfast together, disperses to work or play, reconvenes to eat lunch and play a game, disperses to work and play, reads aloud before bed.
• Family D members wake up at different times, eat breakfast randomly, everyone gets busy and never convenes to read or make anything, or play a game. Don’t worry about it and see what tomorrow brings. It is fully possible that Family D’s kids are doing just fine without the planned 90 minutes, but having a soft spot for reading aloud, I hope they fit that in somewhere.

At the end of a day or week, if you have the energy for it, jot down some of what you’ve observed your kids engaging in. How are they spending their time? What are their interests? What habits have they developed? It will be fun and eye opening to look back on these notes.

I am guessing that your children, if they have forgotten, will rediscover their innate ability to learn voraciously, and you might too! Embrace this change as it happens. When school starts again, I won’t be surprised if you find that having had the experience of learning at home will make school more productive and less stressful. Just knowing school is a choice, and homeschooling an option, can have that effect.

* How is “structured learning time” defined for public school? From the Massachusetts DESE: “Structured learning time shall mean time during which students are engaged in regularly scheduled instruction, learning activities, or learning assessments within the curriculum for study of the ‘core subjects’ and ‘other subjects.’ In addition to classroom time where both teachers and students are present, structured learning time may include directed study, independent study, technology-assisted learning, presentations by persons other than teachers, school-to-work programs, and statewide student performance assessments.” Translation: pretty much everything constitutes “structured learning time.” If your child is engaged in an activity and is learning from it, it counts. And I challenge you to find an activity that a child doesn’t learn from.

Sophia Sayigh and her kids homeschooled their whole lives up until the kids decided to go to college. The children did not do any formal math or writing until they were tweens. Today they are grownups–one a software engineer, the other an ICU RN. Sophia is a retired librarian and co-founder and director of Advocates for Home Education in Massachusetts, a statewide nonprofit providing information and support to homeschoolers. You can read a fictionalized account of living life out of school in Unschoolers, a book Sophia co-authored.