How to take steps towards a valuable friendship.

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You think you’re going to spend the rest of your life with someone and then, all of a sudden, you break up.

Maybe it was your call or maybe it was theirs, but either way … one minute you’re hearing wedding bells and fantasizing about cake tastings and beautiful white gowns. The next minute you’re all alone, heartbroken and ugly-crying on your bathroom floor.

Usually, you spend the first painful part of a break-up hopelessly torn between heartbreak and hatred. You’re devastated and lonely, but you’re simultaneously seriously pissed off. …

Keeping yourself on track can be hard, which is why a good routine is so important

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When I first ventured into the world of freelance writing I had no idea how to manage my time or motivate myself to work for, well… myself.

Now, in the wake of the Coronavirus pandemic, thousands of people find themselves working from home when many of them have never had to before.

Sure, working remotely seems like an ideal situation to some, and it certainly has its benefits, but it can also be somewhat hard to motivate yourself when you’re used to a signifcantly less solitary but more structured work environment.

When I first began my career as a freelance…

Everyday changes that make a big difference

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Mindful maturity requires an element of letting go and evolving, of change and adaptation.

It requires the ability to see things simultaneously as a bigger picture but also as a product of the present moment. To not live with anxiety about the future, or longing for the past.

Mindful maturity is a level of growth that takes time, development, and deep understanding.

“The eye sees only what the mind is prepared to comprehend.” — Robertson Davies

There is not a “one-size-fits-all” solution to becoming mindfully mature. Every person is an individual, and we all take different paths on our journeys…

One simple teaching that changed my outlook

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When I was at one of the lowest points of my life I read “Joy” by Osho.

I was fresh out of a two year relationship, Coronavirus had sent the world in to a downward spiral of disaster, and, after weeks of isolation, I felt utterly stuck.

It was one of those ‘darkness before the dawn’ moments. The periods of time where you don’t feel like you have anything going for you.

I decided in my despair to read some spiritual guidance books. …

How I became a well paid freelance writer within one week

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When I first started freelancing, I had absolutely no idea what I was doing.

That’s not an exaggeration. None, nil, zero, zip… I had never even heard of freelance writing, let alone considered it as a viable career option. But today, I pay all my bills and live a comfortable life working remotely as a freelance writer, and I’ve never been happier.

Everyone knows writing as a career is difficult. Those of us who have always dreamed of turning our passion into a job that can actually pay the bills have had similar fears. For so many of us that…

It’s a whole lot cooler than you think…

All my friends bailed.

My tickets were purchased, my outfits were planned, I had spent way too much money on ridiculous amounts of alcohol. I had been excited for weeks and they ALL bailed. I was pretty pissed off, and really disappointed. I mean, I understood why they bailed, we’re adults in our twenties and shit happens, but I was still bummed about it.

I was on the verge of getting on Facebook to try and sell my ticket so I could at least get some money back. …

Healing is hard but denial is even harder

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Abuse is a bitch.

My abusive relationship was simultaneously the most horrific, and also, strangely, the most uplifting thing I have ever been through. There have been deep and dark moments where I cried silently to myself for hours wondering why I had to go through what I did. There have also been moments where I thought to myself, “I’m so damn strong for surviving that and not turning out super shitty and bitter.”

That might sound really self-centered, but I think I’ve earned the right to pat myself on the back for coming out the other side of a…

Enjoy the ride, it’s a good one.

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None of us know when this is going to be over.

And while it’s frustrating not to be able to plan our lives much past the end of the week, this lack of a predictable future can do wonders for our minds… if we let it.

You see, living in the moment is popularly regarding as one of the keys to achieving happiness. (I use the word ‘achieve’ lightly here, I don’t actually believe happiness is an ‘achievement’, but that’s another story.) …

For most of us, the past few weeks have been a massive bummer.

We’re stuck inside, we haven’t seen our family or friends in a month, and if you’re anything like me then you’re rapidly gaining the dreaded ‘Corona 15’.

COVID-19 hit the entire world like a ton of bricks. An unexpected viral outbreak that put millions out of work and sent us plummeting in to a terrifying economic recession.

In uncertain times, maybe it’s more important than ever to remember that age old saying…

“Every cloud has a silver lining.”

It might feel nearly impossible to think of the…

Ok, I know what you’re thinking, ‘Ted Bundy? A catch? You’re crazy… not only crazy, insulting!’ And if your first reaction was to think that, you’re not wrong. Knowing what we know about Ted Bundy, the man was the furthest thing from a ‘catch’ that you can get. He was a serial killer, and not just any serial killer, one of the most notorious in history. A self-centered, heartless, violent specimen. To put it bluntly, Ted Bundy was a piece of crap.

We’ve all read articles or watched documentaries, we’re all familiar with his heinous crimes. …

Sophie Binns

Writer. Adventurer. Bookworm. Serial Killer Enthusiast.

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