Yes — we need to talk about suicide — all flavors, shapes, sizes and colors. Suicide — much like a jigsaw puzzle has many pieces. When the final piece of the suicide puzzle inspires a sense of peace — game over.
Whenever I encounter a long-term relationship who’s history is rife with drama and struggle — who now seems peaceful and at ease with life — my attention perks up. Given my past volunteer work on suicide help/hot lines I’ve come to know the power of naming the elephant in the room. In a tactful, respective way I ask, “are you actively planning to end your life? If so, how?”
The more rapid and concrete their response is directly relates to the imminence of their suicide. When I encounter detailed, doable plans I plant the seed that suicide is one viable option to your problems. May I explore other options as well? Based on their desire to actually receive support we go from there . . .
