The Number One Secret To Sleep That No One Tells You
Darius Foroux

This is good advice in general. Never worked for me though. I’ve found that my chronic insomnia is mostly divorced from how anxious I am about sleep. That is, it happens either way.

There can be a lot of things that contribute to insomnia. I only have theories about what is causing mine at the moment. I’ve been working on it for years and read tons of publications on the matter. Also worked with a doctor for a while.

I think a lot of it has come down to overall stress that I’ve accrued over the course of my life. Both physical stress (overtaxing the body’s natural processes) and psychological stress. I quit my job over a year ago largely because the accumulated sleep deprivation was so severe I couldn’t withstand the constant pain it was causing me anymore. It really can get pretty bad if it happens over a long enough period of time.

One of the oddest discoveries I’ve made during this period and my self study is that the worse sleep I get, the worse I’ll continue sleeping. I’ll require a total reset period where I get enough sleep for weeks before I start sleeping normally again. This usually requires staying in bed up to 10 or 12 hours a day to get the requisite sleep I require, as well as taking afternoon naps. And until I actually do this, I will continue getting bad sleep.

Also, one of the triggers that can put me into a bad state for sleeping is pushing myself to stay awake when my brain is ready to sleep. Once I do that, it’s pretty much game over. It seems that when I force myself to stay awake, my brain gets into “staying awake” mode. As if I were in a life or death situation and it realizes that it has to stay awake or die. So therefore it absolutely won’t shut down when the time comes. That’s the way I think about it anyway. No idea if that’s what’s really happening. I’m only observing what happens and attempting to draw conclusions from my observations.

So I think what I’m getting at here is in extreme cases, one might need to do a great deal more work and study to get at the root of what’s happening and slowly fix the problem over time.