“First comes love, then comes marriage and then comes a baby in a baby carriage.” What about in between marriage and having a baby? The OH moment.
You’re walking down the aisle, not one shred of doubt in your mind about the person you are about to spend the rest of your life with.
You’re on cloud nine, and it’s AMAZING!
Spoiler Alert! That will all soon change. I’m not talking about your marriage, your relationship will still be amazing! But…
Do you remember that song from way back when in your childhood… the K-I-S-S-I-N-G Song? “First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes baby in a baby carriage”.? What about all of the things you are being told you “MUST” do, immediately after you get married, and “BEFORE” you have a baby? What are these things you ask? I call it the OH moment.
Most of us, post wedding day, are still on cloud nine. Shortly after the wedding, however, we begin getting questions that we don’t have answers for, questions that have never even crossed our minds previously. So, now what? You need to start saving for an RRSP, open a TFSA etc etc. You need to start investing, save for a rainy day, plan ahead… In your mind you’ve already painted a blank canvas of what you think life will be like after your big day; it’s bright, elegant, happy, worry free… it’s just PERFECT.
So… what about those questions we are being asked by our friends and family members? These questions can foster fear, we are now entering our doubt, and major freak out, phase. Are we freaking out because we think less of ourselves? Is it because others think we are mildly silly for not having thought of these things before? Is it because of the fear of the unknown? Are we silly because we haven’t thought of everything? Why are we being judged simply because we haven’t thought things through? What is the big deal?
There are all these unwritten rules placed on us, surrounding marriage and procreation. Does the following statement sound familiar to you? “You must be married by 25, buy a house immediately, and start having kids by 27…blah…blah…blah”. The result of not following the “guidelines of life” imposed by generations past, is that there is something wrong with us. You know what I say to them don’t you?
Screw them! So what!
You don’t have a plan? Plans rarely work out anyway. People are so driven by planning that they let life just pass them by. Just because we are married to wonderful people, doesn’t mean that we need to stop living.
Continue to be that BIG KID you have always been, and don’t allow anyone to question that or take that away from you. So… What are YOU going to do about it???