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Based on personal experience, here are some of the very worst things you could say to someone who is dealing with the reality of having a parent battle advanced stage cancer. So please, don’t be a jackass.

1. I understand. My dog/cat/horse/iguana/guinea pig has (insert illness here) and/or died.

As bad as this might sound, this has already happened about three times too many. I like animals just as much as the next guy. I’m even a vegetarian. But guess what? Your pet doesn’t have the same type of value as someone’s parent does, and equating the loss of your…


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“But you’re going alone?”

My mother had never been what you would call a particularly strict parent by anyone’s standard. After all, I was calling her from the other side of the Atlantic in Budapest, where she had let me go alone to start university just the month before. But I still managed to shock her when I told her about my bright idea: a solo weekend trip to the small Ukrainian mountain town of Rakhiv to celebrate my 18th birthday.

I never had a problem with being independent and self-sufficient, but the solitude was starting to get to me…

Machaela Parkin

A little chicana trying her damnedest. // Modern day hedonist. // Hunt me down: @soymachaela

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