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Sex Ed 69: Re-Learning the Female Orgasm

The world would be a better place if women could pop one off as easily as a man.

Speek On It
Jul 10, 2017 · 4 min read

Men are fabulous sorcerers at getting women into bed. They charm the pants right off of us, no matter how many belts we happen to fasten on before leaving the house. Yet, once they’ve gotten us naked and beautifully displayed, the poor things can’t seem to figure out how to make us orgasm.

Whose fault is this?

We can say it’s the man’s fault for being too hasty. Or ours for getting too wrapped up in our heads and not enjoying the moment of jack-hammering pleasure.

Or, we can point fingers at those that focused too much on fractions and hardened penises instead of calculating sale percentages and stimulated clitorises.

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Sex education in schools consists of blown up pictures of genitals, condoms on bananas, fake babies and a room full of embarrassment. Teachers explain male ejaculation over the roar of their student’s snickers and giggles. The penis, enlarged to unbelievable proportions and tacked with arrows pointing to places of interest, is dissected thoroughly. The entire process of intercourse is explained with blood pressure, swelling and release — educational, to say the least.

Vaginas, on the other hand, are explored to the extent of how babies are made. The uterus and fallopian tubes are paid attention solely to explain the journey of a baby’s development and the torture of periods.

But the vagina itself? Simply a location where dicks are inserted. Vaginas are not meant to enjoy themselves, they’re only meant to bleed and release the next generation. The skimming over of the clitoris leads to detrimental and disappointing sexual encounters later on in our adulthood.

From my memory, I remember my sex education teacher glossing over the clit, reddening as if the very name of the area embarrassed her. These subtle avoidances add up throughout a lifetime, developing a gender largely ignorant of inexplicable pleasures the soft spot between their legs can induces. It also leaves the opposite sex unprepared to understand the sexual complexities of their partner.

What does this amount to? Bad sex. Zero communication. Faked orgasms. Scripted dirty talk, or none at all. Overall, it culminates into relationships based on lies, the man’s ego bursting with delight every time his woman releases. The woman, on the other hand, is left unsatisfied, unfulfilled, and constantly searching for her climax.

Men. They’re trying, honestly. More often than not, they’re becoming more aware of their partner’s needs, striving to fulfill a woman’s satisfaction meter. But years of educational ignorance are difficult to override and can bring more confusion than satisfaction into the bedroom. Women have to work through layers of body shaming, societal pressures and their own mental voices before they can fully tap into the sexual arousal lighting their pants on fire.

Kudos to the men who are out there trying to kill the game with their porn-starred skills, rocking the V with sloppy tongue and finger tricks. Shout out to all the guys who refuse to release until their girl gets theirs. Big up to those who ask questions, communicate and are open to suggestions. Praise them, because they’re here to help.

They’re here to help you explore yourself and find out what makes you connect with someone to the point of exaltation.

Because ultimately, no matter how much a man is open to communication, you must first learn what makes you squirm in order to guide him in the right direction. A generous amount of alone time, a mirror ( if you’re extra curious) and a calm mindset will allow you explore the wonders of your sexual being beyond the general mash of friction you’ve grown accustomed to.

There’s always room for change. In the fantastic words of Donald Trump, Let’s make America great again. One female orgasm at a time.


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