You Had a Purpose Before Anyone Had an Opinion
The definition of purpose according to Cambridge dictionary is defined as why you do something or why something exists.
But what does the word purpose represent to you? How do you feel about the word purpose?
So, we can say that life purpose does consist of basic need to survive- which is also the reasons you get up in the morning and do other vital things, like eating. But is that really enough? How many times does the simplest things, like getting out of the bed or even idea of dressing up and getting ready, feel so heavy and unbearable.
Our purpose should not only be the need to wake up every morning but it also should shape our goals. Goals that make you jump out of bed in the morning. Goals that make us feel fulfilment of any kind. For some that fulfilment represent family or friends, watching movies etc. But in my opinion, purpose should also represent a meaningful, satisfying work. A job that has a real purpose. Although we do spend an average 33,3% of the day or and 252 days per year on workplace. That’s of course meaning physical presence only.
Here, according to Business Insider, are some seriously disturbing facts about jobs:
- 80% of people are dissatisfied with their jobs.
- The average person spends 90,000 hours at work over their lifetime.
- Couples in which one partner spends 10+ hours more than usual at work divorce at twice the average rate.
- 25% of employees say work is their main source of stress and 40% say their job is “very or extremely stressful”.
- More than 13 million working days are lost every year because of stress-related illnesses.
- 10,000 workers per year drop dead at their desks as a result of 60- to 70-hour work weeks in Japan. The phenomenon is known as “karoshi”.
- 64% of Americans canceled vacations last year. One-third did it for work-related reasons even though most felt they were more in need of a vacation than the year before.
- 25% of people check into work hourly while on vacation, via email and phone. 59% said they check work during traditional holidays like Christmas and Thanksgiving. Basically, work is everywhere.
Now, if you haven’t already, you asked yourself: how do I know my purpose?
There are a lot of quick quizzes and articles, guides etc. on how to find and discover your purpose. How many of those articles truly helped? Far from stating that there’s no worth, I am a true believer that everything we want to know is hidden inside of us. Just look within. I advice you to ask yourself: what do I want? What do I want to do? And then just let your thoughts come to you. Think about those ideas that come to your mind. And most importantly: how do you feel? Does those ideas feel right and warm? Does it make you happy? Do you feel inspired? Are you excited? And on the other hand do you feel repulsed, bored, unmotivated? In feelings lies your answer.
Last week I was in a job interview, something to do with the finances, and right there and then it felt so wrong. I didn’t feel motivated and I just wished the interview would be over soon. The feeling that I got when i stepped into the firm offices was far but welcoming, although the work environment looked very pleasing. When the interview was finished and while I was driving home the whole time I was asking my self: how do I feel and why do I feel this way? Although I was offered a job it just wasn’t for me. So as soon as I parked I called the firm and thanked them for opportunity.
Be aware to what makes you feel positive emotions like excitement, joy, happiness, passion, peace and love. These emotions are the guiding forces that let you know you’re on the right path, even if you can’t immediately see how.
Secondly, excuses: “I don’t have any talent. I don’t have time or money. There’s no job available. It’s not possible. I don’t think I can do this...”
On the topic of fear I’m about to write some other time, but for now this will do. Excuses are just limitations, they consist of fears and doubts that prevent us to take action. Excuses are the consequence of lack of interest or and of a rejections (instead of trying we are afraid of word NO). Is being rejected the worst that could happened to us? Word no is just a believe of someone and it’s not a state of our truth, except you allowed it to be.
More than knowing the exact answer on what my purpose is supposed to be is to take action. Just take action and you will find what truly fulfils you along the way through experiences.
Ruby Chavez said: “Don’t worry about trying to find your life purpose. Instead, start by acting on a small things that excite you each day. These are the threads that will connect you to your path, passion, and purpose in life.”
How to take action? That’s on you and it does involve your intuition and creative thinking. Sending out resumes, going to social events, attending seminars and workshops, unlock your artistic side through drawing….JUST DO IT! Only through action the uncomfortable things become comfortable.
This post is written on how I see, feel and experience the world around me. I was tip-toeing around idea of writing a blog for about 2 years but I was so full of excuses that I was afraid and unwilling of writing even a short sentence. And now this is my second post! I’m writing just because it’s fun, to overcome my fears and yes, it did require to take action that I couldn’t make for last 2 years.