During this week of readings in class they were all focused on how media and how history shaped black people’s sexuality and how they are portrayed. Sexuality is what makes things controversial, right? Because sex sells. In almost every form of media it usually has something to deal with sex and whatever it may be. But for black women in media it’s usually “provocative” and not “respectful.” In my opinion, I don’t really care. People who makes it seems that sex is all that bad, it really isn’t because it’s everywhere whether you like it or not. Black people usually and will probably always face the brunt of showing sex in media. It’s always something that is always an issue when it comes to black people showing how they feel about their sexuality.
Sonia Sanchez’s “to all sisters” is a poem that is very short and somewhat simple. The way I understood the poem was that she’s hurt for some reason with probably her past romances, but when it comes to a black man the romance and love behind it is very different. Sonia’s affection for black men is also distinct. She states, “there ain’t no MAN like a black man. he puts it where it is and makes u turn in/side out.” These lines are what makes a black man’s love almost unique for her. She is also addressing to all “sisters” that a black man’s love is what will make them change and realize their worth if he makes them “turn in/side out.”
Usually in media black men are portrayed as “violent” and “raging” which makes it seems that they are not really capable of showing any sort of love or affection. Or in most cases they use women for sex and leave them at that. A majority of today’s rap music videos tends to have black women used as strippers or some sort of sex work model where the rapper only raps about using her in sexual ways by the support of money. It’s not true for most rap songs or videos today, but that’s what’s popular today. Even though I don’t really care about howw sex is portrayed in today’s media, it still becomes offensive when black people in general are used and viewed in sexual ways and nothing else to make some sort of profit.
As to why I titled this week’s blog post “Flux” because everything is flexible and fluid. Sexuality is not constant — it’s always changing in some way. When it comes to black people it’s supposed to be “constant.” The way black people are raised is that the man has to be in control, show no emotion, always providing, and doing what they want. A black woman is only supposed to bear children, be submissive to her husband, cook, clean, and even come with “baggage.” Those are usually the negative stereotypes when it is portraying black people and typical gender roles that black people are molded into. Black men are sensitive to their masculinity therefore creates “hypermasculinity.” Hypermasculinity tends to be very violent in ways when black men are told that is all they have and “diginity” they carry. It’s not a good way to think and know because it can become violent and used as an abusive tactic to keep black women “in their place.” What I’m trying to say is that everything that deals with sexuality is flexible and shouldn’t be looked down upon especially in the black community.