The four layers of our D/s-relation and how we use them to level up our sessions

A man in black suit caresses a woman laying in bed. She holds the bed frame. The photo is taken at the SPNKD loft in Antwerp.
A man in black suit caresses a woman laying in bed. She holds the bed frame. The photo is taken at the SPNKD loft in Antwerp.
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As the creators of the SPNKD we talk a lot about how our own and others’ Dom/sub-dynamics work. Do you ever reflect on how this kind of relationship could work for you?

The unfortunate truth is that the internet expects most Dominants to be result-oriented, meaning they expect the Dom to communicate only what they want done as if subs merely flip switches and push buttons until the prescribed performances emerge. A lot of dominants seem to be result-driven; it all looks very cinematic and after all, and it appears to be the easiest way to dominate. It’s kind of…

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