I just found this. For some reason I didn’t expect this to be as helpful as it was — wow. I am tentatively sticking my toe into open relationship situations and balking each time at how purely scared I am that something awful is going to happen. It feels like standing on a cliff. I really love the advisement here to know that things aren’t just going to be easy — maybe I can just sit with the fear and accept it as part of beginning this process. Thank you so much for writing this.