Boundaries, why we assume and we really don’t have too…

A Leadership Spark on one thing you can do to remove assumptions

Be explicit about your expectations, this defines your boundaries in the relationship. this is applicable to all aspects of life, but very importantly within your work environment.

Summary: Use this simple tool to gain clarity and have a conversation about what you bring to, and need from, any relationship. Seek clarity wherever possible. Remember Clarity and Competence is the prerequisite for increased control.

There are assumptions in our workplace, in many places, but often between two people or small groups. A practice that I have recently started is to remove assumptions between people and in groups. As a leader, this is important as assumptions cause disconnects and errors. Clarity and connection are vital parts of effective partnerships, teams and groups. The concept is a conversation about the boundaries of the relationship. Essentially — what is in and what is out in any relationship; it may be marital, work, mentor/mentee, or even in groups of people working together to achieve something great.

Each person uses a two-column sheet with the headings ‘I request’ and ‘I offer’, these are completed ahead of time or at the same time (I find having time to think on it works better). Use these columns to write what it is you truly need, and what it is you are willing to offer (be specific! Don’t leave room for assumptions). Comparing this to the other person’s columns (request 1 to offer 2 and offer 1 to…