Heads I Win, Tails You Lose.

Winning and losing are perceptions that can be fashioned into “ Heads I win, tails you lose.” We need to transcend parochialism, adapt to current data, and define what can be done together ( Hecht, 2013 ). Winners and losers truly believe they can beat the casino. Collaborators own the casinos. Heads I win, tails you lose folks function outside the matrix of both.

Often, their motivation isn’t monetary and their wealth isn’t material. Heads I win, tails you lose folk’s only material possession may be the coin they’re flipping. The “traditional” clique often shuns, pitties, and shames the heads I win, tails you lose folks.

To winners and losers that’s just the way the game is played; sometimes you win and sometimes you lose. Winners and losers may approach HIWTYL folks with condescending suggestions aimed at fitting them into the winner/loser herd, and collaborators will make every effort to teach HIWTYL folks into the collaborator herd.

Although HIWTYL folks are open to suggestions and hede advice, they’ve transcended both herds by way of God’s Grace. HIWTYL folks know there’s nowhere in the world to go, no place in the world to get to, and nothing in the world to be gained. They can be found everywhere. They often elicit comments such as, “ Man, that guy doesn’t have shit. Why is he so happy?” or “ Oh my God, he’s so ill. There’s no way a sane person could have so little and be so happy. Poor guy. Gotta be some type of illness. He probably just needs medication.” or “ Keep your head down. Work hard. You’ll get there someday.”

To all of the former comments the HIWTYL folks gratefully and graciously hear you and hede your comments…that’s about it. They give a smile and walk in the other direction knowing without a micro-hair of a doubt that it’s all bullshizzit.

References

“The thing that hath been, it is that which shall be; and that which is done is that which shall be done: and there is no new thing under the sun.(ECCLESIASTES 1:9, King James Version)

Hecht ( 2013 ). Collaboration is the new competition. Harvard Business Review. Retrieved at https://hbr.org/2013/01/collaboration-is-the-new-compe