A few years ago when I was online dating , I often read in profiles of women how men should not…

Thomas, I made it quite clear in the article that we ALL have baggage. I know it works both ways — that’s not the point I’m making here. And I agree that I don’t know how the trauma manifested itself in their relationship, but I find it unfortunate that you put the onus on the woman only to seek out professional help — I’d like to point out that you don’t know my friend’s history; if he found it too much to handle he certainly could have used language along those lines to express his feelings, but he did not.

I’m not sure why the reflexive response has to be that any piece being remotely critical of men has to result in guys lashing out about “man hating,” — but it clearly makes my point about the microaggressions women endure on a daily basis.