Is it that you are conflicted about who you are? Or is it conflict about how you don’t fit neatly inside the binary? I am a trans woman. My hair is a messy mop that barely covers my ears. I don’t wear jewelry or have my ears pierced (that may happen eventually). I don’t wear makeup. I have breasts, but choose not to wear a bra (I don’t fill one yet, lol!). My clothes are male’s — tee shirts and jeans (the universal sign someone who has no fashion sense has abandoned all hope) and the stereotypical lesbian flannel. My mannerisms are a bit masculine, but my tonal inflections are feminine. People see me and get all kinds of confused. They either see me as: a feminine guy, a trans woman, a trans man, or a woman.