Embracing Change: Moving Beyond Struggle
Feeling like you don’t fit in, not doing what you truly want, and feeling lost, yet still chasing after goals you’ve set for yourself, convincing yourself for years that it will truly make you happy.
Look back at yourself and you see heaps of effort and heaps of years spent on one thing, and you feel like it couldn’t have been any other way. There are two options battling within you: to end it, start from scratch with what you truly want, or to continue with what you know and are good at, yet don’t want, and it’s slowly killing you.
You might be experiencing these feelings. You feel lost, yet you always set high goals for yourself. It’s clear that it’s not good; setting unnecessarily high goals, and if you don’t achieve them, you disappoint yourself. Self-blame, feelings of failure, and incompetence.
I argue that we should think big and I stand by that, but in that context, so that we have open possibilities, knowing that anything is possible and that every path can be right. We should be able to seize the opportunities that come and not let them slip away to someone else.
„Life is a struggle and you have to work hard,“ this was instilled in me from a young age. And I strongly disagree. Unpleasant circumstances come in life, which we must manage, and it’s not easy, but why not simplify life? I think that if we are relaxed, enjoying each small moment, then the best ideas come. I observe people around me and see that those who worry the least are also the most successful, achieving small goals and enjoying the journey step by step, and at the same time, they are happy that they succeeded.
My grandmother constantly tried to show, with invisible pressure and subtle remarks, that religion is the only way. God will show you the way. Maybe many of you won’t agree with me. I’m happy to listen to your opinions as well. But according to mine, it doesn’t matter what we believe in or if we believe in anything at all. During confession to priests for our sins, the feeling of relief is only for us; we forgive ourselves. It also helps us to feel that we are not alone in everything.
The feeling of airing out thoughts, the feeling of peace, and focusing on one thing, whether during mass or meditation, make us calmer and more relaxed.
It’s important to find our own thing, whether we find it in knitting, sports, religion, or something else.
The decision to change is necessary because the lack of sleep, stress, and the feeling of needing to be somewhere completely different will exhaust you.
Ending something you’ve been working on for a long time might initially seem like a failure. But it’s not, it’s the courage to start something new.
Letting go doesn’t mean giving up, it means moving on
