Overcome over-thinking, self-doubt, self-loathing, internal misery and zero action with this hack (and completely change your brain and actually enjoy your life)
Self-analysis is not all benefits; there are downsides.
The biggest one is self-criticism. Self-analysis reveals the truth and it can be painful. When you don’t pay attention to your deeds or performance, it’s easy to lie to yourself.
“Oh, it’s just a single donut, it won’t make any difference. Besides, I’m not even overweight.” However, when you observe a “single donut” appearing every other day, it’s much harder to keep a straight face.
Your brain uses smoke and mirrors to keep you on your current course. It doesn’t like changes and the easiest way to maintain the status quo is to come up with lies and excuses. As long as you don’t try to see through the smoke and mirrors, this strategy works perfectly well.
The truth may be painful
All too often, when we start to track something, we discover that our true deeds, attitude, and performance are not as nice as we thought they were. And we become disappointed with ourselves.
At this moment, unnecessary self‑criticism or even self‑loathing may start and lead you farther astray.
Think about it. What do you usually do when you are disappointed by your performance? You beat yourself up and then console yourself with a quick boost of dopamine — whether it is gained through some sugar, fat, or quick mindless win (like reaching the eighth level in a game in twelve minutes, which allows you to feel you’ve accomplished something).
None of these activities bring you closer to the results you desire. What is more, they are cementing your destructive behaviors.
It’s another mind trick that will keep you dormant.
Remember: self-analysis is not a club to beat yourself with.
It’s a feedback loop. Yes, it will reveal some unpleasant facts. What else would you expect? Why are you self-analyzing in the first place? To improve, of course. And if you are not perfect yet, it’s only natural to encounter performance that you’ll want to improve.
Don’t think badly about yourself. Think badly about your wrongdoing. And, regardless of the data in your feedback loop, don’t get offended by the figures, or the self-analysis system.
Continue self-analysis, it’s a foolproof method for improvement. It surely beats doing nothing or surrendering to your vices. If you stop self-analysis you may feel better, but you won’t BE better.
Think on paper
I firmly believe in writing down the results of your self-analysis. It provides you data points and take thoughts out of your head where they can be easily perverted by subconscious mind.
How to change your brain?
Cultivate gratitude. It has the power of setting your brain to positivity. Experiments confirmed that it’s enough to come up with three new reasons for being grateful every morning for one month to change hardcore pessimists into optimists.
Why is that important? Here what happens when your brain is positive:
“Every possible outcome we know how to test for raises dramatically.”— Shawn Achor, the author of “The Happiness Advantage”
Cultivating gratitude is one of the easiest habits on earth. I started from jotting down 1 to 3 things about my wife in a dedicated gratitude diary.
Let it sink in. A tiny habit, less than 30 seconds a day. Every measurable output increases. It’s also very enjoyable.
Write down something you are grateful for immediately!!! And make it your new habit.