The best habit I’ve taken up from another person
I wasn’t really aware of the power of gratitude till I started transforming my life at the end of 2012.
About my wife
On 26th of September 2012 I started gratitude diary about my wife. Each day I wrote1–3 things about her that I was grateful for. I was first inspired by Darren Hardy talking about this habit in “The Compound Effect.” Later, I met a guy on an online forum who did kept a journal and was very positive about his experience.
As I further pursued my personal development quest I found that many successful people keep gratitude diaries and recommend them.
So I started my own on 19th of November 2012. Every day I wrote down 5 things about my day I was grateful for.
In mid-January 2013, I gave my wife the journal I kept as her birthday present. She was amazed.
About my kids
I noticed I have problems praising my children. I was conditioned to correct them, not to praise them.
So, on 17th of January 2013 I started gratitude journal about them. I have 3 kids and I wrote at least 3 things I am grateful for about each of them in this journal.
About my life
I kept my personal gratitude journal on loose sheets of sticky notes.
Around mid-February 2013, my entries grew from 5 per day to as many as I could fit on the sheet.
From the first of July 2013 I switched to an A5 notepad and changed the commitment to at least 10 entries a day. It expanded over time. Right now, I dedicate about 1/3 of A5 page to them and I’m disappointed if I write less than 20. I’m very rarely disappointed ;)
So my gratitude habit has expanded from 1–3 entries about my wife on the 26th of September 2012 into:
-1–3 entries about her,
- at least 3 entries about each of my 3 kids
- and 15–25 entries about my day.
Overall growth from 1–3 into 25–35 gratitude entries.
This habit rewired my brain to positivity. I attribute a lot of my successes to it since I heard Shawn Achor on the podcast saying:
“When your brain is positive every possible outcome we know how to test for raises dramatically.”
And I have a birthday gift for my wife every year ;)