E. Saglamer
Nov 4 · 2 min read

Thanks for allowing us our god given right to watch porn.

However it’s limiting to write about this subject from the point of a female. It’s like someone who can’t smell writing a restaurant review. You did good but you are no guy and you don’t know what’s going on in our heads.

Men are like a watershed, they have a certain throughput when it comes to sexual energy. At the beginning of relationships this energy flows steadily strongly towards their new partner like a straight line like river meeting the ocean.

As time goes by this straight line builds bends, turns and the path get convoluted and develops branches. Branches mean you are now not getting all of the water.

Porn isn’t porn for a guy, it’s real, they suspend belief like they are watching a Rock action flick and believe it is all happening. So In a way porn is real. This is great in some ways cause it provides an outlet when sex isn’t available But also it means the stream develops a branch and finds an alternate path and sometimes that alternate path can end up on an online hook up site and meet up with someone else.

Porn gets a bad rep because it is believed it leads to infidelity. Porn isn’t the problem. Guys are visual creatures. They will always crave visual stimulation within the relationship and still look beyond and also look at some things outside. That’s Just men. The trick is to make a man feel both in charge and connected all the while making them feel free.

You got one thing right, the best way to lose a man is to start imposing rules on them. Women have a talent to manipulate gently benevolently and make guys think something is their idea. This talent is the cornerstone of any healthy and long term relationship with a man.

They need to believe they are free and are choosing to stay.

One venue porn is bad is sexual performance expectations have gone up significantly in the last decade turning sex into a stressful performance sport. You have to be this big, you have to go for this long, you have to do these positions, it has to be this rough, and you have to climax this many times and produce this much ejaculate and she has to climax that many times etc etc etc. It sounds like a weird crossover between American football and ice skating. Most of my friends talk about how they feel they are not performing in bed and complaining about things like orgasming too soon at the one hour mark.

Whatever happened to losing some clothes and having a little fun? I tell you what. Porn. Porn ruined all of that.

Men with significant others need to save their sexual energy and not spend it on porn and this will in turn improve their sexual performance and pleasure achieved with their partners. Porn is like a leak on a sprinkler system water tank. If not enough water in the tank, you are not going to be able to put out the fire. Simple as that.

    E. Saglamer

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