Why People Leave the Church and Never Come Back
Nate Bagley

Thank you for taking the time to write this piece. I see your point and the good intention to be a voice for members who, because of personal struggles, decide to leave the church. I appreciate it, especially because, at one point in my life, I was one of them. However, what about showing the same curtesy and non judgmental attitude for the poor souls that, despite of their imperfections and short comings, do not walk away. They choose not to throw away the baby with the bath water, and keep on going. They keep clinging to their faith, and to the church organization, because it gives them the help and support they need to keep on moving forward; despite of their doubts, their failures, their fears, and trials. What if we show a little mercy also to them that have not yet learn how to love unconditionally and how to have Christ like compassion, but are still trying so hard everyday to do better. Unfortunately more often than not we expect everyone else to respond to us, and to our needs better than we ever can, and become frustrated with them if they do not fulfill our expectations; we judge them for it. As if someone else should take the responsibility for our wellbeing and peace. Gratefully there are many that can be of help and do give comfort to a troubled heart, but that is nothing we earn, as if we should be entitled to it because we are suffering. They do good because they are good, they’ve developed those Christ like qualities. Being an active member of the church doesn’t mean we are professional care givers, and loving experts. We are simply there because we strive to become so. We are attempting to be followers of our Savior Jesus Christ and are practicing applying His teachings every day. What if that person that still going to church and still hanging on is also a lost soul? We shouldn’t expect others to alway be on their A game. But maybe this is the problem; the judgment and disappointment we place on other are nothing but a reflection of how we judge ourselves. Let’s give everyone the benefit of the doubt. It goes both ways.

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