Do you want to keep your man happy in bed for the rest of his life? Becoming a rockstar in the art of blowing him will do more for your sex life than you imagine!

It will great a deep bond between you too. He will feel loved, accepted, and served to the max. If he has any self-esteem issues, or past traumas related to his manhood, this is also a way to do “🎤sexual healing” (as the song goes)!

I researched and experimented a lot in this area. Here is a compilation of the best blowjob tips I have found. Follow these, and your man will never even dream of another mouth. You will make him love you madly. Blowing him like a rockstar makes him confident, happy and deeply bonded in the relationship. He will be eager to do anything back for you, in all levels.


A recent study has shown that over 30% of women enjoy the feeling of power they get when they are sucking cock. And in another study, 28% of women reported that they find the act of giving their man oral sex to be very pleasurable. So if you already enjoy these feelings of power and pleasure when sucking his cock, all you need is to own this more, and show it more.

If you are not there yet, then keeping an open mind and pretending to love it will likely open you up for it.

Show you want and love to blow him. Imagine it’s like eating a delicious cheesecake, and you just want it so badly. No blow job tip or technique is as important as simply demonstrating this love and hunger for him. All other tips are only instruments to express this love and enjoyment to him.

Let him know how delicious he is and that now you really want to put him in your mouth … “just for a minute or two.” Then stay long. Create the illusion that he’s the one in control and that he’s the one teasing you.

Great ways to show you love it are:

Take initiative. If you love it, you are doing without being asked! You prepare for it, you tease him, expecting him to allow you to do it.

Make noises. Moan. It may feel artificial in the beginning, but you will see how it drives him crazy. Moan as if you were the one having a great orgasm.

Have animalistic enthusiasm. Read more in Rule #2 here.


The more he desires it, the greater will be his blast.

Here are some ideas for building anticipation:

Sexting. Give your man a hard on during his day by sending him a message saying something like, “I feel like blowing you hard today. What color of lipstick should I wear?”

Selfies. Send him sexy selfies, with different lingerie, and tell him something like, “What should I wear next time my mouth is wet…?”

Pausing. Once you are ready to start sucking him, open your mouth and look him in the eye. Then pause. Come to his ear and whisper something sexy. Then go down and suck him unceremoniously.

Kissing. Another great way to start off your blow job is by kissing his cock all over. Kissing is great if you like taking things slowly and teasing your man.


Dirty talk is an amplifier for your man’s pleasure. The specific things that will work the best with him depends on his personality, emotional needs, and on the context. Here are some examples.

Boosting talk:

“Your dick is so big”

“What a powerful man”

“You make me so wet…”

Shy talk:

“Oh shit, I don’t know if I can handle your cock…”

“I wanna feel you deep in my….. mouth. But I am shy… I don’t wanna look like a hungry slut…”

Romantic talk is all about making him feel special and unique. So avoid saying things like “I love giving head,” and instead say “I love giving YOU head.”

Provoking talk:

“Can’t wait to see you later…and my lips can’t wait either ;)”

“I can wait to feel you explode in my mouth tonight.”

“Fill up my mouth with your manliness”

I love when you do me up here… Take your time and enjoy…”

Super dirty:

“I just want to be your little fuck doll…”,

“I want to feel your cock in my mouth right now.”,

“I love it when you fuck me like a slut.”,

“I want to feel you explode and cum all over my face.”

“Just having your dick in my mouth makes me so f**king wet!”

“I want to feel you throb in my mouth when you’re cumming!”

“I want to be on my knees every day for you.”

As you become more confident and see his enthusiasm, you can start expanding your dirty talking, by

Telling him how much you are enjoying giving him oral sex.

That you can’t wait to taste his cum.

How giving him a blow job turns you on.


A five stars blow job is not only about what you do with your lips and tongue. Your whole body needs to be telling, “I’m loving this… I’m submitted to you”.

Some ways to do this.

Head: apart from moving up and down, also move your head circularly or sideways a bit, to show you are “going crazy with it”

Legs: whatever the position you are when blowing him, keep your legs open and your butt up, as if your man was also penetrating your vagina. And move your legs slightly, from time to time.

Hands: if he’s standing, you might “hold on” to his butt or hamstrings just strong enough to let him know you don’t want him going anywhere. If you are laying down belly up, you can use your hands to squeeze your breasts, showing you are having the time of your life. Holding his balls is always a good idea too, specially when you are kneeling.


Starting a surprise blow job every once in a while will give your man the impression that you are always thirsty for him, and bonding with him. The ideal moments for surprises is when he is ready to have it, but he didn’t initiate it. Here are some ideas:

BJ Surprise – Let’s say you’re both sitting at home, watching some TV. When he’s least expecting it, cuddle up beside him and start massaging his crotch with your hand to get him hard, before pulling down his pants and giving him a blow job.

Road Head – The next time he is driving you home at night, do the same. Start massaging his testicles through his trousers, before unzipping them and giving him some road head. Just make sure you aren’t breaking any laws! This idea works equally well if you are both sitting in the back of a friends car.

Morning Wood – Prepare to wake up before your man on a lazy Sunday morning, and wake him up in heaven! ;-)

Take Control – The next time you’re both alone and feeling frisky, push him down into a chair, pull his trousers down and start sucking his penis.

Ready to bed – After he said goodnight, give him a special “good night kiss” so he sleeps like a baby. Specially powerful after a tiring day for him. Assure him, “You don’t need to do anything. Just sit there and enjoy your girl sucking all the stress out of your body.”

Shower – Get him right after his shower, before he dries himself up. Say nothing, just kneel down and start directly.

Weekend pass – Send him a blunt message like, “You got a special pass. This weekend, anytime, just message me ‘BJ please’ and I will show you what it is to be my man. This coupon expires Sunday night 😉”

Back home – if you arrive home from work after him, right after greeting him hi with a passionate kiss, lead him to the bedroom with a smile on your face saying “there is something I want to show you.” Then go down and blow him while still in your working clothes and makeup.


The only mandatory blow job tip when giving your man oral sex is that you absolutely must not use your teeth on him. It can completely ruin an otherwise fantastic BJ.

Some tips to optimize your technique

Make it as wet as possible. This will make it feel warm and cozy, like your vagina, and he will love it.

The tip of your man’s penis (the glans) is by far the most sensitive spot on his penis, particularly the underside. The female equivalent is the clitoris. So lick it abundantly.

Massage his penis with your tongue, inside your mouth, while sucking it up and down.

Make eye contact. Some men like short, 3–4 seconds contact. Others like you to be submissively staring at them all the time. Experiment and see what your king loves the most.

Vary your speed a bit, sometimes slow, sometimes fast. Or go on a steady and even speed, starting slow, and little by little increase the speed. In any case, towards the last 30s you should be on a speed that is as fast as you can maintain, and keep that until the very end. Once he actually blows, go up and down more 3 or 4 times, very slowly (so it doesn’t break his climax).

If your man likes having the power, allow him to hold your head with his hands, control the speed and depth of the movements. If the idea of submitting to your man turns you on and you know he respects you enough not to go too fast or too deep, then putting your head in his hands can be incredibly erotic, arousing and fun for both of you.

One final, but complicated, tip about mechanics is depth. The more of his cock you can put in, the better. This, of course, involves deep throating (unless your man has a small penis). Deep throating your man, is more advanced blow job technique, but when done right, it can deeply gratify and sexually satisfy your man. Deep throating provides your man with yet another set of sensations when sucking his cock that will help make him see you as an absolute sexual goddess. For most women this requires some training outside of the sex interactions. See this post and this video for more.

Note: if you do practice for deep throating, send him photos of you trying with bananas, rubber penis, etc. This, in itself, will build great anticipation, and also show your man how much you care.


While these tips are universal, different men like different things. Some man like to have full control, like you are their doll. Others like you to be irrational thirsty for it, doing all by yourself and for yourself.

Some man like you to be naked while blowing him. Others like you to be wearing a bikini or lingerie. And others like you to be wearing normal day clothes.

How will you know? By asking! And just asking this questions may already give him a hard on and build anticipation.

So be sure to try different things with your man. He will feel awesome that you are actively trying to become better at it and even asking him to teach you what he enjoys best.

You can, for example, talk to your man while on your knees, saying something simple like, “How do you want me to do it now, baby?” while holding his penis in your hands… Or asking, “Be my blow job teacher tonight…”

Some women even watch a couple of top rated porn videos or GIFs with blow job, for ideas on what to try. It’s not really needed, but it can give you an edge. If you like to do that, here is one of such sites.


The more you excite your man with dirty talk, anticipation, moaning, etc., the more you are prepping him for a great explosion. And now it’s the time to seal the deal and make him feel you to the depth of his bones.

For most man, the most touching finale is to allow him to blow in your mouth, and swallow it. You can simply just swallow your man’s load when he ejaculates. That’s what many girlfriends do, and he will love it already. But to make it even more intense for him, try swallowing it like you haven’t had a drop of water in days and are desperate to have his cum inside you. The moment he climaxes and explodes in your mouth, swallow it while still sucking for more. When your man sees how desperate your are for his cum, it can seriously intensify his orgasm.

Swallowing is always a huge bonus. But many women don’t feel comfortable with that. If that is your case, that’s fine. If you want to try to learn to enjoy it, see the tips at: If your man is healthy and has good nutrition, swallowing his sperm actually has good proven health and mood benefits.

Second best to swallowing is allowing him to cum in your mouth, then opening and showing him the cum sitting on your tongue. Then you can go and spit (ideally without him seeing).

Third best is letting him cum on your tongue, face or breasts. In any case, you can make it incredibly more hot by licking your lips afterwards, and asking him “Give me more!”.

Letting your husband cum on your face can be incredibly hot for both of you. But you can make it more intense, by having him cum on your face, then collecting it on your fingers and licking your fingers clean.

If you are married, and have a very trusting and open relationship, you may want to film this whole scene. He will love to know he has this glorious moments privately recorded when he wants to masturbate thinking of you – like when you are in your period!


That was it! A goldmine of tips to make your man the happiest man alive!

With these, you will make some sex sessions be all about him. The more you make BJ time all about him, the more he will feel you and love you. He will then want to give some sessions to be all about you – so you will enjoy that too. And it makes you feel more comfortable about just receiving too!

If you have any wild stories, questions, or need a quick gal to gal email exchange, send me something, and I’ll try my best to answer you all!

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