How To Hold Someone’s Hand

A brief guide

Holding a hand is not a difficult thing, in and of itself. It is a simple thing, a kind thing. A gesture meant to say

I love you, or

Don’t leave, or

I’m afraid, or

I’m glad you’re here, or

Don’t let them take me, or

I’m sorry for your loss, or

I will never stop being on your team, or

I love you.

Holding a hand is not a difficult thing, physically. But the mental challenge involved — the hurdle you must climb in your own mind — can be nearly insurmountable.

It is a difficult thing. It says

Don’t, or

They won’t like it, or

They don’t like you, or

You’re being silly, or

or, or, or.

Holding a hand is not a difficult thing, physically. The act of holding a hand is quite simple, and requires only some general motor skills in one of the two involved parties.

But really, even that isn’t strictly necessary.

We do not need to tell you how to reach out and grasp another person’s hand.

You just… reach out and grasp the other person’s hand.