9/11, Respect

9/11 sucks because it’s not a holiday. And it’s not like you can get a mattress on sale either, although someone tried.

And completely failed.


9/11 is a solemn day of remembrance. But if you don’t watch tv or see it in your feed, you don’t really feel it. It’s a ghost. Sure, you might feel its presence when you’re alone and you notice the date on your phone, but not at brunch or picking up things at Target.

Everyone has moved on.

Well, no. Everyone continues to move on. We have pre✔️ and now THAT line is the inconvenient one.

But if you do check your feed, it’s a weird melange of sanctimony and morbidity. The over-sharers and the ones who overthink what others think of them remind us all:

‘I’m a feeling and caring person. Never forget. Always remember. Look how much I’m moved to share this terrifying video of planes crashing into a skyscraper. Oh, and this Budweiser commercial.’


(I don’t know. Personally, I don’t like 9/11 shoved in my face. I have worked on my being numb tirelessly.)

Look, it was a shitty and frightening day. Well, no, the weather was perfect. The morning was crisp, cool. The sky was blue and clear. It was lovely. I can’t ever forget it.

But it could have been any of us on a plane, in a building, or on the ground below.

THAT was terrifying. THAT was chilling. THAT made us come together.

Yes, people seemed to care for one another. They wanted to help, they wanted to do something. Because, damnit, tragedy always brings out the best in people.

Curiously, not Donald Trump.

(Of course, that’’s not really a shocker.)

But in general, people put aside their differences and come together in a tragedy. There’s no black or white, brown, beige, almond, or taupe. Or for that matter, Christian or other.

I’m not saying people have stopped caring for one another, but we are NOT all on the same page.

This is an election year and it seems we are more divided than ever. (Looking at you, DJ Trump.) You can ONLY be red or blue. And as it concerns the national anthem, you can only stand…

‘Oh my stars and stripes, how can you not stand? HOW?WON’T SOMEONE THINK OF THE CHILDREN?!?!’

Of course, as you can’t help but know, Colin Kaepernick has opted to sit.

“I am not going to stand up to show pride in a flag for a country that oppresses black people and people of color. To me, this is bigger than football and it would be selfish on my part to look the other way. There are bodies in the street and people getting paid leave and getting away with murder”, referencing a series of events that led to the “Black Lives Matter” movement and adding that he would continue to protest until he feels like “[the American flag] represents what it’s supposed to represent”. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Colin_Kaepernick

Right? And then there’s this meme…


But I digress.

That’s Kaepernick’s right. It’s anyone’s right. Some random football player, your senator or representative, you. That’s actually what makes our country great. Truly. On the surface it seems disrespectful. But it’s not. No one is burning anything, and shouting fiery rhetoric. It’s a very cool calm way to bring attention to something that, in someone’s opinion, is not getting the attention it deserves.

That’s it.

Because here’s the thing, none of has walked in his/her shoes. None of us knows his/her truth. And for that matter, none of us knows the third stanza of the national anthem which seems to glorify the killing of slaves hired to fight for the British.


But that could go either way, and again I digress.


Respect. Respect. Respect.

Respect is all I want to say.

Respect that people are different. They look different, they sound different. They have different languages and customs. They like different foods. They like different music. They wear different clothes. They have different genders and sexual orientations. They believe in different gods and deities. They own different pets. Or they own no pets at all. And they might have different opinions and points of view from yours. C’est la vie, non?

But we all have the same rights in this country. It’s part of the constitution. That’s sort of the unifying thread to our country’s existence. Actually, it’s pretty much the entire pantsuit.

Respect, freedom. It’s all in there.

A friend on FB posted this. He says it a lot better than I can.

As someone who was physically close to the 9/11 attack on the World Trade Center and psychologically and emotionally affected by it in a huge way, I feel compelled to say to those who are criticizing the NFL players who kneeled or otherwise protested during the National Anthem today: you don’t understand what either freedom or patriotism means. Our country was founded on protest of tyranny!
You want a country where everyone stands in unison mindlessly (or because of fears of reprisal) during displays of nationalism? That’s North Korea, not the United States. And if you think that members of our military have such fragile egos that protests during the Star Spangled Banner somehow hurt their feelings, check out all the veterans who have expressed solidarity with Kaepernick — http://www.sbnation.com/…/veterans-for-kaepernick-hashtag-p… — a guy who deserves credit for furthering the conversation about police brutality against people of color.
It takes a lot more courage to draw people’s criticism and anger and hatred by taking an unpopular stand in favor of “liberty and justice for all” than to just blindly show loyalty to symbols like songs or flags without giving thought to what they are supposed to represent, or to the fact that many people in our country are still deprived of that liberty and that justice because of intrinsic, centuries-long traditions of oppression. — JF

That’s all I got. Be kind, be respectful. Carry on…