I’m not really the bar-pickup sort, either on the giving or receiving end. The number of times I’ve been alone in a bar and said more than a few words to a stranger probably fits on one hand.
My social life has been substantially digital, and going to a loud, crowded, public space to spend inordinate sums of money on intoxicating liquids seemed relatively pointless.
But, dissatisfied by being a B- student in nearly anything relevant and novel, I could finally tolerate the taste of wine by my late twenties, and quickly discovered that the craftiest of craft cocktails and…
I was trapped. How else to combat a big lie but with another one?
“…nooo…” I retorted, with audaciously feigned surprise and instant heat to my face.
Reality, laid down as only a newly-minted teenager can do.
Cue: laugh coyly and change the subject.
We are all constantly reinventing ourselves. Mundanely, we shape our bodies of nature, casually eroded by our turns of phrase, our footwear selections, and our choice of employer. Sometimes we make hard pivots, with the escape velocity necessary to escape prisons we find ourselves in.
There’s not much worse than being caught in a conscious effort…
[CW: descriptions of sex, sexual assault]
The first (decent) song I wrote: Fear Into Faith.
It’s mostly about a classmate I dated when I was young, who is fortuitously the only one in my entire dating career thus far to get a nickname like “Asshole Boyfriend”.
Like all my songs, it is made up of snapshots from different areas of life. …
[CW: child pornography, child sexual abuse]
Published as shared with Stephanie Pakrul, November 2018
I don't feel this way today.
I cannot write this without prefacing it with that sentence. The shame still grips my throat.
I used to look at child pornography. I fantasized about your daughters and nieces and their friends in hotel hot tubs, while we made polite conversation about the wedding you were in town for. I made up stories in my head about what I would do to the young actresses I saw in movies if I only could. …
[CW: sex work, some explicit discussion of sex]
Published from an interview with Stephanie Pakrul, November 2018.
Stephanie: Thank you for talking to me today! You once told me about your first sex date as a “Sugar Baby” and I’ve asked if you would share your story here. What was your motivation for agreeing to do this?
#338: I believe that living without self-deception is the essence of bravery. …
I was deeply resistant to both purchasing and laying under twenty pounds of tiny glass beads.
Some part of me didn’t want to be okay on my own. I clung to wanting someone beside me to sleep. It became clear this resistance had something to teach me and I certainly needed to sleep better, so I forked out $120💚.
All stories on this site are the truth.
I have had the privilege and burden of carrying stories of considerable shame in my nearly two decades as a camgirl-slash-confidant and member of the human race. It’s time for our shared pain to come into the light, so we can help each other heal. We cannot grow as islands.
Nothing is hearsay. Everyone is real. It’s understandable if some of these accounts make you feel deeply uncomfortable. There are Content Warnings (please let me know if I’ve missed anything) on any stories likely to be triggering.
Some stories are anonymous. Some…
They corrected a few facts in my memory timeline and tell a story of the power of curiosity and human potential.
The moment is indelibly stamped, sitting in Dr. M’s office, gazing around for clinical tidbits to replicate in my doll hospital at home. I wasn’t sure what to make of the number of pothos vines she had draped around the packed bookshelves of her tiny windowless back office. This was a different kind of doctor than all the ones before.
They were discussing some particulars of my case. …
So far we’ve covered AIML template/pattern syntax, sets, basic variables, wildcards, and simple recursion. Now let’s look at implementing a map of interests and opinions.
I’m choosing to do some of my interests as a map rather than written out in AIML because there will be many topics that I don’t really need to expand upon or perform any kinds of actions on, so a simple key-value pair for the text response is adequate. They’ll be easier to update and manipulate in the future as a map file rather than in markup.
First we’re going to create a set with…