How to Construct Affirmations for Attracting Your Soulmate: Stepping Toward Your Soulmate Challenge (Day 12 of 14)
Over the last 11 days of the Stepping Toward Your Soulmate Challenge, you’ve created and refined a list of attributes that you’re looking for in a partner.
Your list isn’t likely a perfect description of your soulmate. As we discussed on the first day, You may not get what you ask for. BUT you’ll get more than you asked for! But it’s an amazing start on your journey to find your soulmate.
After building your list, in yesterday’s challenge you contemplated whether you have some work to do before you’re ready to meet your soulmate. That work is essential, and you should commit yourself to it daily. Personal development takes commitment and consistency, and those are hard to come by in a busy life. (Continue to follow this page after the Soulmate Challenge is over for more general articles about self-improvement and the spiritual journey to wholeness.)
Today’s challenge is about mindset. Although we’re not going to get into the merits of The Secret or the efficacy of standard manifestation techniques in this article, we can personally attest to the power of affirmations.
Whether affirmations manifest the objects of our desire through supernatural means or they simply prime the mind to find what we’re looking for and prepare it to accept those things, affirmations work.
Your job today is to create a series of affirmations based on the work you’ve done over the prior 11 days of the challenge.
Exercise 12
To construct your affirmations, you’re going to start with the revised list of attributes you’re looking for in a partner and the list of characteristics that your ideal partner is looking for.
Your affirmations should follow some basic rules:
- Each affirmation should be written in present tense. For example, if your ideal partner is someone who works hard, the affirmation could be written as “My partner works hard, but he understands the importance of family time and always makes time for me and our children.” You are not “looking for” this partner; you already have them. There aren’t contingencies or doubts built into the affirmations, even if you’re doubtful about the prospect of finding your person.
- Affirmations include details. Notice that the example in item 1 got specific. Be careful what you wish for. If you’re looking for a hard worker but you also value family time, you should include that detail in the affirmation.
- Despite the admonition in the prior example to be specific about what you’re asking for, affirmations should be relatively simple. You may start with a full, wordy statement of what you want and then refine it to its essence.
- Affirmations are positive. In the example we’ve been using thus far, “hard working,” we aren’t asking for a partner who isn’t lazy. It’s okay if your list of partner attributes includes negatives; it likely will. But when you form your affirmations, turn the negatives into positives.
Using your list of ideal partner attributes as a foundation, write a series of affirmations about your ideal partner, putting them in present tense, as if you’re already with that person.
Also consider creating a series of affirmations using your work from yesterday, where you considered areas in your life that may require some work. For example, if you want to be a better listener, construct an affirmation using the rules from above. You may say something like, “When others are speaking, I listen intently, not thinking about how I’ll respond, but hearing them and asking questions for clarification if I don’t understand.”
When constructing your list of affirmations, you may want to hand write them. There’s a lot of power in writing words on paper.
After you’ve built your list, commit to reciting your affirmations daily. You may choose one affirmation each day and recite it throughout the day. You could also read your entire list each morning as a daily practice. Even better, do both, starting the day with a reading of your entire list of affirmations and then cycling through them one-by-one each day.
There are countless options for enhancing the power of your soulmate affirmations practice. You can record yourself reciting the affirmations and loop them, listening to them as you sleep. (Audacity is an amazing free audio editing tool that will allow you to create these sleep affirmations.)
You may also choose to post your affirmations around the house, in your car, and on your desk at work. The more repetition of your affirmations, the better. Let them really sink in.
Notice any mindset changes as your affirmation practice progresses. Start a journaling practice if you can find the time. Are you finding yourself losing attraction to people who don’t satisfy your attributes? Are you noticing those who do? Have you settled into the single life better? Note any changes. It’s easier to keep a practice up if you recognize the benefits.
Commit to maintain your soulmate affirmation practice for at least 30 days — although 90 is even better — and I guarantee you’ll see transformation in your life. Even if you don’t find your soulmate during that time, the affirmations will enrich your life and open your eyes to possibilities you may never have otherwise considered.
