“because cultural conditioning is powerful and the fear of coming off arrogant or self-pitying is strong.”
This is THE argument against transparency. Maintaining balance between bragging and down playing causes the vague conversation. (i.e. we’re comfortable)
Whenever I mention specifics on how much something costs or buying an expensive item, more than once, I have received the “must be nice” response. I cringe when I hear it and go back to the vague explanations.