I’m sitting in my biology class right now thinking about all this stuff.

I’m not going to go into detail as to why life is weird. There are many things that can happen that make you think that. It’s different for everyone.

What I am going to talk about is a way to handle life’s weirdness. I’m writing this as a way to handle it myself, to be honest.

My friend Steven sent me a fantastic Reddit comment that I link at the end of this blog post.

I basically took a lot of chunks of it and made it into this Medium post. The thoughts and ideas are not original — they were taken straight from the Reddit comment. But I felt as though a Medium post would reach more people.

Let’s begin, shall we?

No Zero Days

You can’t do nothing anymore. What does that mean? You can’t just sit in bed and watch Netflix all day. You can’t just hang out with friends all day and not do stuff that helps you get to your goals.

If it’s 11:58pm and you did nothing all day, do a push up. Go write a sentence about something bothering you. Do something that will ultimately help you achieve your dreams and goals.

If you don’t do this, you will continue to, over and over again, be in the same cycle where you don’t do anything all day every day. You need to change that right now.

When you do non-zero days every day, it will stop this cycle and make a positive difference in your life. Doing things now.. even if they’re small, will make a huge difference if you keep on doing it little by little every day. It’s especially important to keep these consistent.

3 Yous

If you wanna love someone and have someone love you back, you gotta learn to love yourself.

You exist in 3 ways:

  1. Your Past Self.
  2. Your Present Self
  3. Your Future Self

Your Past Self:

Be grateful for your past self. Think of something positive your past self did. If you’re feeling awful today, think of a good decision you made yesterday.

Past you ate a Salad and Tuna instead of a Big Mac? Thank you younger me.

Past you took notes that you can use to study for the exam coming up tomorrow? Thank you younger me.

Past you did a non-zero day yesterday by writing a 200 word blog post (hey if that’s all you can muster, no worries.) Thank you younger me.

Your Future Self:

Do favours for your future self that you would do for your best bro. Don’t have a best friend? Now you have 2. Your future and past self. Give your future self favours that you would give to your best friend. Can’t get off Reddit? Can’t stop thinking about someone? Can’t get off the couch watching Netflix? Stop thinking about your present self. This one is for future you. Rock out that Ab Ripper X. Read a blog post about something you’re passionate about. Don’t have something you’re passionate about? Find something.

The cycle of doing something for someone else (future you) and thanking someone for the good in your life (past you) is key to building gratitude and productivity. Do not doubt me.

Forgive Yourself

I don’t want to paraphrase this section just because I think what Ryan said in here just should not be paraphrased.

Tried your best to have a nonzero day yesterday and it failed? so what. I forgive you previous self. I forgive you. But today? Today is a nonzero masterpiece to the best of my ability for future self. This one’s for you future homes. Forgiveness man, use it. I forgive you. Say it out loud.

Exercise and Books

When you exercise daily you

  1. Are actually smarter.
  2. You get high from endorphins
  3. When you exercise you clear your mind
  4. When you exercise you are doing your future self a huge favour

Everything you could have possibly thought is written in books. Reading is the warp whistle in Super Mario Bros. It gets you to the next level that much faster.

Here are some books that Ryan recommended:

  1. 7 Habits of Highly Effective (Ryan said Successful, I think he meant effective) People
  2. Emotional Intelligence
  3. From Good to Great
  4. Thinking Fast and Slow

For me, there is a single book that has forever changed how I handle stressful situations. That book is The Obstacle is The Way by Ryan Holiday.

Hang in there

There’s so much more when it comes to how to turn nonzero days into hugely nonzero days, but that’s not your mission right now. Your mission is nonzero and forgiveness and favours. You got 36 essays due in 24 minutes and its impossible to pull off? Your past self let you down big time, but hey, I forgive you. Do as much as you can in those 24 minutes and then move on.

You can do it. Have the best day of your life.

TL;DR: 1. Nonzero days as much as you can. 2. The three you’s, gratitude and favours. 3. Forgiveness 4. Exercise and books (which is a sneaky way of saying self improvement, both physical, emotional and mental)

Link to the best Reddit comment I’ve ever read.

Peace and love — Stefan