Well said! Coming from the perspective of almost thirty-two years of marriage, surrounded by friends whose marriages have made it through the decades and others that blew up along the way, I see two interrelated ingredients implicit in the success factors you included: Self-awareness and humility. The fire that refines us when we are willing to be self-aware and humble enough to make the choice to love when the shallow connections of lust and affection have been burned through by trauma or boredom.
The choice is so valuable. I am not alone in needing to feel free, to feel uncaged. My wife was never comforted by it, so I don’t really talk about it, but it is the freedom to go — the ability to choose to stay that makes it possible for me to stay.
Thank you for your story!