Divorce: Have You Been Through A Divorce?
Unless you have been through a divorce, you can not understand how the people feel.I worked in a Funeral Home for some time. I saw the hurt and pain people go through at the death of a loved one. After we prepared the body and finished with everything, we were ready for the family to view their loved one. Friends would usually arrive to visit the family. I usually heard some remarks from friends who would comment to the family, “ I know how you feel.” Every time I heard that statement, I would think no you don’t.
You and I can express sympathy and be helpful in any way possible to help with the deep hurt of a loved one, but we do not know how they feel. I have lost my Dad and Mom in death. They both suffered long illnesses before they died. Friends and family members gathered but there was a deep hurt that I had to prepare for the best I could. If you did not know I am an only child. I knew the grief and pain that I experienced was deep but I also knew there was only one way for me to go forward and that was relying upon Jesus. I was honest with Him. I told Him after Mom died I felt lonely, empty, and alone. I had many friends I was also married, but I had to allow Jesus to remove the guilt and shame I was feeling. You see, being the only child, the Drs. said we are that place where you have to give us the Word. Dad had a living will I had to make the decision. Mom asked me to because she could not. Mom well the Dr. and I were friends and after trying everything, He said it is time. After praying and crying because of the grief, I said do it.
I am sure some of you have gone through difficult times. That is why when I write or speak I have such a desire to give you something Jesus gives me to help you.
Divorce is never easy and can be like a death. Divorce is difficult and you may and probably will be judged for going through with divorce.
Husbands and wives should love each other and complement each other. Paul said for the husbands to love their wives as Christ loves His Church.
Wives submit to your husbands, Paul did not say for the husband to abuse, beat, or curse their wives. The husband has a great responsibility to love their wife. Husbands should pray and encourage his wife. A wife can submit when in your heart she knows someone loves her and will do anything they can to make her happy.
Many wives are verbally and physically abused. Anyone who abuses his wife will stand before God and be judged for every word and deed they have done.
Husbands must love their wives and be ready to help them. Love is so much more than sex. Love, caring, sex, and much more is involved in marriage.
Many see after time they were never joined together by God. They realize they can not walk in unity, and the Scripture says, How can two walk together unless they agree? The answer is they can not walk together. You see you really may have believed God put you together, but at some point in time you come to an understanding it never has been right.
Is divorce right if you come to realize you really do not love the other person and regardless how much you have tried you are continually beaten down?
I go back to what I heard much in Abbeville, Alabama where I was raised.You made your bed now and you have to lie in it. I did not nor do I believe you cannot undo what you did. God is SUPREME OVER EVERYTHING INCLUDING MARRIAGE. I heard a statement last week, and the statement was marriage is a piece of paper. Please think about that and you are free to post your feelings. No, I am not sacreligiou I am a Christian.
I will say you can always be forgiven and set free by Jesus. Jesus desires we love Him and follow Him. I do say DIVORCE sometimes is the answer. You may disagree, that is ok.
Please feel free to post your comments. You may be married, or you may be on the verge of walking out of bondage by getting a divorce. You may have tried with everything within you and you have realized you are the one who have given so much, tried so hard, but now you have lost all feelings toward your husband or you wife. You may have come to realize you have stopped being who you really are because you gave yourself but the spouse has not given unto you. You realize you can no longer pull the load. You may be a Christian and others say to you that you must remain even though they do not see the hurts, and pain that you carry because of some type of abuse from your husband or wife.
I ask the question should the husband or wife stay in that relationship? My next question is, would you remain in a situation as I described above? Please take some time and please respond let us know what you would do if you were or you are in a marriage like the above example.
God knows our heart, what He desires we do, and ultimately who He has picked for us to walk through life helping uplifting, caring, holding when things are to heavy to carry, always sharing the load in the Spirit, and being a Godly man and woman. Please remember a difficult lesson I have learned, if a person loves you that person will change because of LOVE!!!!