No doubt — and I’m sorry to hear that you were abused in this way.
I wasn’t saying that Trump isn’t “abusing” and I wasn’t saying that “gaslighting” isn’t a form of abuse.
I was pointing out that what Trump is doing is almost certainly not gaslighting. I say this because thr term implies an intentional repeated switching of meaning or message done with the intent to confuse people.
I don’t believe that Trump is intentionally trying to confuse — instead, I think that he simply doesn’t have the mental capacity to retain a coherent story, and I believe that he simply switches message whenever some random thought goes off in his brain. He doesn’t think before he tweets…he has no control of what he says in the heat of the moment. This is a terrifying thing for someone with that much power.
I don’t say this as a way to excuse or apologize for his behavior — or to reduce in any way the mental anguish that either his approach or true gaslighting can cause.
IMHO: The effect of what Trump is doing is similar to gaslighting — but without deliberate intent.