4 Things You Can Do To Help You In Your Toughest Times
Whats the secret to being a successful person? Sadly, there is no secret. But if there is one skill that stands out, it’s the ability to focus and make the best move when there are no good moves. It’s the moments when you feel like hiding or dying that you can make the biggest difference to your life.
The first principle of the bushido (the way of the warrior) is to keep death in mind at all times.
If a warrior keeps death in mind at all times, and lives each day like it were his last, he will conduct himself properly at all times.
Everyone starts their life with a clear vision to success. It’s all going to work out great. Then after working night and day towards your vision, you wake up one day to find things didn’t go as planned. Your life didn’t unfold like you thought it would.
As your dreams turn into nightmares, you find yourself, in the struggle.
“Life is struggle” — Karl Marx.
The struggle is when you wonder why you set goals in the first place.
The struggle is when people ask you why you don’t quit, and you don’t know the answer.
The struggle is when food loses its taste, and sleeping becomes a luxury.
The struggle is when you don’t believe you deserve to be loved or great or even successful.
The struggle is when you know you are in over your head.
The struggle is when self doubt becomes self hatred.
The struggle is when you are surrounded by people and you are all alone.
The struggle is a cold sweat. And it causes failure, especially if you are weak.
Most people are not strong enough. Every great person went through the struggle, so you aren’t alone. But that doesn’t meant you will make it. You may not, that is why it is the struggle.
The struggle is where greatness comes from. There is no answer to the struggle.
Here’s some things that have helped me in the struggle so far.
- Don’t put it all on your own shoulders. Find people to help. Ask for help. Don’t isolate yourself. Nobody will feel the loses more than you, but sharing the burden helps.
- You always have a next move. Always. Life isn’t checkers. It’s fucking chess. Tomorrow looks nothing like today.
- Don’t take things personally. The predicaments that you will find yourself in, are entirely your fault. But everybody makes thousands of mistakes. If you want to be great, the challenge is to make a mistake and to be able to recover.
- Keep learning. If you stop learning, you might as well be illiterate. The strongest thing in the world, stronger than any army, is an idea whose times has come (Viktor Hugo). Ideas sow the seeds for action. Read books.
When you are in the struggle nothing is easy and nothing feels right. You are in the abyss, and you may never get out. An awakening can happen at any moment. The one action and behaviour you might make that will allow to reach critical mass might always be your next move.
You have to find your way through the static to the music.