How to Change Behaviours and Daily Routines
I have written this to help take what you do now, and help you to do it a little better. It was Gandhi who said, “The difference between what we are doing, and what we are capable of doing would solve the worlds problems.”
Let’s talk about solving your own problems first. Let’s talk about the behaviours that you are doing now, that you know you could be doing better, that are standing between you and your dreams.
THERE IS A CONSTANT DISCONNECT BETWEEN DATA INPUT AND BEHAVIOURAL OUTPUT
You are not a computer and neither is your brain. We are dynamic, emotional beings who are influenced by changing perceptions and desires. There is a fundamental need to be drawn to beautiful and exciting experiences.
We aren’t cold and lifeless data driven machines. We are in fact imperfect, feeling creatures who are being constantly pushed and pulled by our relationships and environments. We are moved by our personal truths of inspiring visions for the future. The acknowledgment of this is the first step to opening a world of greater possibility. A world where what we actually do during the course of our day is fact, not truth. Truth is what we think about our actions.
It’s the feedback we take on board from the actions we perform. If we aren’t happy with those actions, truth is what we decide to change for tomorrow, so that the new behaviour becomes fact.
You are the sum of your behaviours. That is a fact. What you think about your behaviours, is your personal truth. It’s the identity you tell yourself you have. It’s when you tell yourself “I’m not a guy who runs,” or “I’m a girl who eats when I feel sad.” It’s your own voice telling you “I can’t do this,” or “I’ve always been 10 kilos heavier and that’s just me.” This is your truth.
WHAT STORY AM I LIVING?
ARE MY DAILY BEHAVIOURS GOING TO TAKE ME WHERE I WANT TO GO.
We become the stories we tell ourselves. Your inner experience inspires your outer actions.
We imagine and tell ourselves that we are great mothers and fathers, sons and daughters. Once upon a time, we told ourselves that we would become sports heroes and ballerinas. We told ourselves that our dreams would one day come true and we used to act on those dreams by running around in the field or practicing for hours. Somewhere along the line, during the redistribution of your time, and your values, your personal truth changed.
We stopped living our stories and began to tell ourselves different ones. Sometimes, ever evolving realities catch up with personal truths, and the stories change. Maybe the 5 hours per week you used to dream up how far you could run and then go and run, is now time spent working on your career.
A single dream is more powerful than a thousand realities. If you want to change the facts and the truths about what you are, start by telling yourself a different story.