When Fantasy Becomes a Great Pitfall to Your Self-Healing

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“Unfortunately, though, when people try to block out the pain, their filter also blocks out the good”
— Heather Gray

You don’t know what you don’t know until you know it

  1. Passive-aggressive behaviors;
  2. Projecting my negative feelings onto my partner;
  3. Lying to myself and the ones I love about my emotional state; and
  4. Ignoring the early warning signs that I and the relationship needed help.
  1. I was in denial of my own needs;
  2. I rationalized and downplayed the meaning of impactful events had on me;
  3. I downright don’t remember most of the warning signs as they went mostly ignored as they didn’t fit the narrative I kept telling myself; and
  4. I played the victim, rejecting the accountability to meet my own needs.

“Who are you if your story begins to change? Do not be so loyal to your suffering that your healing doesn’t stand a chance.”
— Vienna Pharaon

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Father, husband, and rediscovering self. Using writing to explore my mind, and help others along my journey.

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Father, husband, and rediscovering self. Using writing to explore my mind, and help others along my journey.

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