Thank you for sharing these thoughts and concerns. You distill this to its essence: we’ve been commanded and shown the example of how to love others and sacrifice for them. When we learn to love unconditionally, we stop worrying about why people left the church or when or how they might come back. We just see people, our daughters, sons, brothers, sisters, fathers, mothers, as sons and daughters of a loving God. What peace this can bring to our hearts and theirs!