There are such obvious and common patterns in behaviour and “tactics” that are evident in many cases of parental child abduction and alienation.
When reading many articles/posts, it seems like they are all working from the same handbook of emotional abuse… In these cases why don’t the courts and childcare “professionals” identify these patterns? If they do, why do they ignore them?
Why do they not hold accountable parents that resort to false allegations and perjury?
Why is the child not automatically provided emotional help in family law cases? They are the most important people and can only ever be winners if the parents can be amicable so why is mediation and shared parenting not the model that the courts encourage as priority? Could this be for financial reasons?
In mediation, if a parent shows that they are not prepared to work with the other parent in the best interest of the child, shouldn’t sanctions be applied?
I know there is an arguement that an alienating parent may go through the motions for the benefit of the court rather than the child… but when breaches of memorandums of understanding are made, shouldn’t the parent breaching those agreements be sanctioned in some way?
Sadly, parents can go through the court process and be let down in very similar ways..
We know the system is broken but yet we are still forced to use work with it (until we are forced to decide that it will get us nowhere in its current form and/or we just can’t afford to progress matters through the court without draining us completely which is also draining our children’s financial security)..
Personally, I will continue to raise awareness in any way I can but unless parents and families stand together and highlight these issues, it will be difficult to apply enough pressure to prompt change..
Sadly, people accept things the way they are or judge the non-custodial parent with a thought of “no smoke without fire” without giving a second thought to the lies, deception, perjury and failure of the courts which brought things to this point.
Acceptance of spurious, malicious and cruel allegations and blatant perjury in the courts that we put our trust in to protect us and our children is abusive in itself . It can be a direct CAUSE of psychological issues due to emotional trauma and has even been linked to suicide.
I have spoken to a parent a few years ago prior to him giving up on life completely in this scenario.. This has now left his daughter without her loving father permanently!! Its Heartbreaking!!
Please please please, review your processes. It is assisting the destruction of many families by aiding and abetting the alienation of children with half of their family as well as the emotional health of parents who will do whatever they can to be in the lives of their children.