// i am not a superhuman

I haven’t written in so long. Ah! But it’s okay; there’s a time and a season for everything.
The past seven months I haven’t been writing here has actually been filled with adventures and stories that I don’t have room to do proper justice in this post.
But in a nutshell, the common theme of what I’ve been doing is focusing on evaluating how I want to live my life. Because, newsflash, we get to decide that. I’ve also been finessing my brand and making it kickass.
So, I’m not sure if anyone else experiences this but I get constantly thrown off track with thoughts like, “ooo! I could do this!” or “maybe this could work too” and “let’s do it now. RIGHT NOW”.
I’ll have a crystal clear idea of what I want to do and in the process of sorting through what the logistics of how it’ll work, I’ll have another idea. Then another idea. Before long, I’m juggling four different ideas with a side of overwhelm. Not the cocktail I typically demand from the bar.
One of the many things that I’m learning is that it is better to strive for excellence in one thing than to spread yourself too thin over four things. Granted, this is not a new idea for me. It’s actually something my parents have told me before. However, I’ve been reading through this book call Essentialism and it hit me right in the feels.
I’m not through with the book yet but through the first couple chapters, I felt myself getting emotional. My eyes were suddenly being open to portions of my life that I realized weren’t progressing as I hoped because I just had too many things to do. I had allowed myself to strive for busyness because that’s what we do. We, collectively as a society, put busyness on a platform. We say it means we’re doing something. We’re making things happen. We’re being productive.
The truth is that we are none of those things. At least not to the fullest potential we could be doing them.
I had become dangerously addicted to choosing a full schedule. If I had a free week of evenings, I booked dinners and sought out fun events to go to. I planned planned planned until I was so inundated with engagements that I couldn’t function. Or, more likely, I cancelled engagements.
Seeing this caused me to make a decision. I don’t want that…busyness. I don’t want to be that person. Both personally and in business, I want to be able to strive for excellence. I want to focus my energy on one thing, finesse that one thing until it’s sustainable, then shift my focus, if needed, to something else that I want to develop.
I am not built to do it all. None of us are and we need to be okay with that.
Before I respond to an invite, I will process through it, weigh what it will impact on a greater scale, and be okay with just saying no if I feel it is too much or unimportant.
I will give myself permission to not be busy. In exchange, I’ll allow myself to enjoy my life. To rest. Recharge.
Through this week, I want to challenge anyone reading this to take a conscious look at your commitments and process through what you could say no to in order to create time for rest. As much as being a super-human-busybody may seem appealing, it. is. not. sustainable. for. life.
Say no. Focus on the essential few. Make time to recharge. You are not a superhuman.
More to come!
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