Another overly victimization topic for women again.
Your example of yours daughter and son make no problems at all to your daughter to become a coder here why. I will use my anecdote as an example
Back in my childhood day. My older sister is good at math as a girl and on the top of her class while I’m just an average boy who’s just an average student in the class also hate math. I love drawing I can draw a pretty good picture yet my sister is still better than me. I’m also quite skinny and ugly so no one around me has never expect me to be good in art or can create a beautiful art work. Yet none those could prevent me from aspire to be an artist. In my middle school time I can draw copy artwork from artist like Rahael Zanzio, Michelangelo, etc. Even I’m really ugly no one can denied my impressive ability in art. (I’m an asian most asian has bias toward good looking people) Also none of them expect me to be good at this either.
Fast forward to today now I’m a self taught programmer who know many of recent technology and began to love math since the day I realize that coding/programming is my passion again none of my family member expect me to be a programmer indeed they don’t like what I do. It seem useless to them (none of people around whom I live with are working in tech field indeed I’ve been raise by a farmer who no nothing about technology). As far as I can remember no one had ever push me or encouraged me to be a coder even my sister as a skeptic on me. But none of that could prevent me from coding
— — — “Additionally, my daughter is often silenced by conversations about technology.” — — — — — —
I’m a man an I found this too since none of my family member are working in tech. If this kind very little problem prevent any one to become a coder then they really have no passion in it in the first place. They might also have any thing that they are really interest to do so why strict with the things that doesn’t really matter much to them?
— — — — “My college advisor assumed I’d be going to medical school without asking if I intended to continue in the field of computer science, which was my major. As a result, he had not guided me toward the courses” — — — — — —
This happen to me too. My school advisor assumed that I’d be going to architecher since I’m doing well in both art and math while actually I really hate math. I want to study in pure art and this make me hate the education system my grade fall to the ground since I don’t want to learn math any more(back when the day I’ve never code) I drop out of college and become a graphic designer later become programmer and really love it more than anything and this make me begin to love math for the first time of my life.
As you can see. What happen to me is no-one can actually prevent you from anything you love in my case work in art relate work. All of your example is only show that how sensitive women is and also how they willing to complains things around them for their failure and this is toxic.
If some of those very simple little thing like those you mention in an article is really big problem that could prevent someone to be the somethings they love. The things that you need to question first is that “Are they really have a passion in it?” If they don’t really have a passion in it. Why would you want to pushing them in the first place.
PS: Don’t tell me that I’m a man so I will not know how worst women have to face with. So by the same logic since you have never be a man then how would you know what men really have to cope with in their life. All I can say is no better than you indeed we found a lot more hardship and simply don’t give a fuck, we don’t do self victimize for any special treatment. We don’t blame people around us for our failure. Just keep improve to be a better version of ourselves then no one can deny you.
We all living in the world of equal of opportunity already we have plenty of choice. So if we cannot accomplish goal A then their will be another next best things for us. So don’t keep complain other for your failure. This never make anyone to be a better version of themselves.
The way that teacher today given more points for a girls who only do things as good as boys is tells us how much we always have a special treatment for girls. So enough is enough. If women really want to work in man field then do it like a men with same treatment if they cannot do so then gender is a social construct is simply a myth.
