I agree with you, Gary. I don’t agree with the concept of putting self first = selfish. The Bible tells us to “love others as (the same way) we (would) love ourselves”. It tells us that self first is necessary. It implies practicing love on the self to know how to love others, which is often the misunderstood concept of that scripture. After all, as RuPaul often says, “if ya can’t love yourself, how in the hell are ya gonna love anybody else.” God first, me second, then everybody else.