I hope you are also teaching her
that she does not need a man in her life to complete her.
That losing both her names to marriage from being Adelaide Sledge
to becoming Mrs George Waller should be as offensive
as it would be for George to become Mr Adelaide Sledge
TEACH HER
that finding her passion ,
and living her purpose outranks finding the love of her life.
TEACH HER
that the love of her life
is someone who would not change a thing about her
and makes her feel that on her worst day
she could conquer the world.
TEACH HER
that any relationship with a man
has to compliment the pursuit of her purpose,
that common interests are imperative in establishing long term bonds.
TEACH HER
that there is nothing more magnetic than confidence
and sexy clothes, 6 inch spiky heels , gobs of make up ,
obsessing over your hair or how fat you look in an outfit,
instead of focusing on your goals, your purpose,
attracts so many bottom feeders the “ honourable men” move on
to seek honourable women,
who are driven to making the world a better place
and not focused on becoming eye candy.
TEACH HER
Modesty
If you do not want her wearing a bikini when she is fourteen
using her body to attract attention,
then do not put her in a bikini when she is two.
Modesty has to be a value which is modelled by the whole family
in clothes, behaviour, beliefs and values.
TEACH HER
that she is not the sole person responsible for a relationship with a man
the one who is expected to make the sacrifices, uproot herself,
give up her purpose, set aside her goals, her identity,
in aide of keeping the relationship.
Which is a direct off shoot of becoming Mrs George Wallin
and the disappearance of Adelaide Sledge.
Above all teach her what disrespect looks like
and to never ever tolerate it for one second.
TEACH YOURSELF
That it is delusional for parents to think
that they are so close to their children that their child would for sure
come to them if someone was molesting them,
or if they were in a bad relationship.
It is so rare as to be statistically insignificant
and you cannot risk that your child would beat those odds.
The reasons for that, is for a different posting.
Suffice it to say you have to teach daughters how to take care of themselves
become their own advocate, their own champion,
holding all men including authority figures
to the line in the sand which they made themselves
requiring men to be honourable.
TEACH HER
that love does not hurt
and the first incident of degrading talk that she is not good enough
or needs to do something to herself to please him
or laying hands on her in anger
is the last.
The standard test of acceptability of behaviour from someone is this.
- Is that a behaviour you would do to them.
-Does their behaviour make you feel better about yourself.
If both are not present then the behaviour
must have immediate corrective consequences.
TEACH HER
That battered women who get killed by the man in their life
when they try to leave, to a person stayed too long, trying to make it work,
teaching the man that it was her responsibility to make it work,
teaching him it was ok to lash out at her.
Every case of men killing their wife or girlfriend
because she left hi;m there was a string of women he left behind
who got out immediately after the first incident
without having to end up in a safe house in fear of her life
hiding from his rage.
Time and effort in these cases makes thing far worse,
because the batterer feels more entitled each time he gets away with it
until leaving him becomes a murderous offence
because you have attacked his very definition of his manhood.
-Controlling his woman-.
He finally found one to control, and now he cannot.
TEACH HER
that it is a myth that a child will change a man for the better
and has deadly consequences for being wrong
given that the number one cause of mortality of a pregnant woman
is at the hands of the father of the child, this myth has to be stamped out.
TEACH HER
That daughters and fathers have to go to the mat
to stop the systemic obliteration of women’s accomplishments
until all that is left for girls to model from
is using her body as a commodity, aspiring to be eye candy.
or as Trump said
“You know, it really doesn’t matter what the media write
as long as you’ve got a young, and beautiful, piece of ass.”
“ if Ivanka weren’t my daughter, perhaps I’d be dating her.”
Again Trump “Women:You have to treat ’em like shit.”
For Example:
America is busy patting itself on the back
for having nominated its first woman candidate of a major political party
and how does this earth shattering glass ceiling breaking news
get disseminated ?
Front page headlines front page pictures
not of Hilary but of only her husband
on the
Wall street journal
Washington Post
Seattle Times
Houston Chronicle
Pittsburgh Post Gazette
Chicago Tribune
When and where would a male ego tolerate such a snub.
Took 35 years for US government to acknowledge existence of the WASPS
Women’s Auxiliary Ferrying Squadron who flew over 60 million miles
in every type of military aircraft as test pilots and ferry pilots
( delivering planes to combat areas and returning planes for maintenance
in and out of fighting zones, without the backup of gunnery)
and another 32 years to be given the Congressional Gold Medal in 2009
Then there is the Book:
-Promised the moon- by Stephanie Nolen
12 women were recruited in 1969 to become astronauts and they out performed the men having superior physical and mental attributes
to endure the isolation and weightlessness of space
but they were grounded because the space race got politicized
when the Russians beat the Americans with Sputnik
and no women would be allowed to steal from America
to have the ego boosting bragging rights of having the first man in space
first man on the moon.
Then this:
NASA had a big GALA 50th anniversary celebration
honouring the launch of the first American satellite before computers
when the math had to be done in the heads of mathematicians.
And the one mathematician who single handily was responsible
for the math needed for a successful orbit was not invited,
BECAUSE SHE WAS A WOMAN, Barbara Palsin.
None of, not one of, the other dozens of mathematicians
who worked on the project were invited either if they were women.
SEE Book Rise of the Rocket Girls: The Women Who Propelled Us,
from Missiles to the Moon to Mars. Holt shows that the women worked as “computers.”
http://www.npr.org/2016/04/05/473099967/meet-the-rocket-girls-the-women-who-charted-the-course-to-space
TEACH HER
That America is not Great
when their women soccer players who win 5 times as many medals,
generate twice as much money for the club owners
have record breaking world TV viewership
and get paid four times less than male soccer players
and only when they win, plus less for travel expenses,
while the male players get paid 4 times more
for showing up whether they win or lose.
TEACH HER
how sexism is insidious and must be stamped out at its larval stage
and the way to detect its presence is to take the statement or action
and change the gender to male and watch it jump out at you.
TEACH HER
that she is the sole judge and jury of whether something is offensive or not
and NO she DOES NOT have to to hush up,
get a sense of humor, stop being so sensitive, and grin and bear it.
And if the offence comes from an authority figure, her teacher her boss
she is NOT NOT NOT NOT to blame.
SHAME on this culture when a presidential candidate in 2016
can blame the victim and say that a woman sexually harassed at work
“ has to find another job or another career”
instead of shaming and holding the aggressor to account
she has to make herself scarce.
Because of that revolting, repulsive, repellent, repugnant, disgusting, odious, vile, foul, abhorrent, loathsome, nauseating, sickening, hateful, insufferable, intolerable, detestable, abominable, despicable, contemptible attitude the task of fathers raising daughters is 1,000 time tougher.
NOTE: Women covered in Burka coffin clothes still get raped.
POINT OF NOTE: the aggressor is the problem, not the victim, no woman can make herself unattractive enough to not be considered prey.
Despite the headwinds
TEACH
your daughter to be the one who seeks the proper support
so she can be the one who came forward
and not be in the group of 19 who suffered in silence,
fearful of being blamed, and the 5 who did step forward but were ignored.
TEACH HER
from the age of birth that she is the one who decides
from whom she receives affection. Including parents, siblings, relatives, grandparents and especially that uncle she hates so much.
If she is forced to receive unwanted affection from a family member
then you teach her that her body is not her private property
and you just make her easy pickings for a predator.
TEACH HER
“the characteristics of the powerful, whatever they may be,
are thought to be better than the characteristics of the powerless
— and logic has nothing to do with it. ”
If Men Could Menstruate. by Gloria Steinem.
http://www.mylittleredbook.net/imcm_orig.pdfTeach her this
CONSIDER sending her to an all girls school because still in 2016
Girls out perform boys in school until they start dumbing down
in grade 3 to fit in and not scare little boys
into finding out that girls are usually smarter than boys
and by the time they are teenagers
girls in mixed sex schools start to quickly and precipitately fall behind.
SEE THE BOOK — by Dan Abrams
“Man Down: Proof Beyond a Reasonable Doubt
That Women Are Better Cops, Drivers, Gamblers, Spies,
World Leaders, Beer Tasters, Hedge Fund Managers, and Just About Everything Else”