In my experience of the world, there’s a difference between jealousy and envy. Jealousy tends to be the possessive, damaging, selfish feeling of coveting something that someone else has whereas envy can be the compassionate side of it. Envy is “wow, you’re getting this amazing thing that I want but I’m glad you have it” and jealousy is “wow, you have this amazing thing and I have negative feelings about this”, if that makes sense.
I’m not going to tell you how to conduct your relationship or not but if you go into strip clubs to make your bf *envious* {as in, there is something about the situation he wishes he could have but is glad you get to experience that lap dance}, that is pretty understandable. If you do it to make him jealous, to provoke feelings of insecurity and possessiveness and resentfulness in him, then I would raise an eyebrow because I fundamentally don’t believe in intentionally making someone you care about feel negative emotions.
At the end of the day, it is your relationship and as long as neither of you is taking any negative emotions that may arise out on the dancers {and tipping them well and being respectful}, keep on keeping on and do what works for you ^_^
