Severing the Emotional Ties That Keep Us Stuck

When we get into meaningful relationships we exchange energy. Sometimes this energy turns into a chord connecting two people together. This chord is usually attached just below the breastbone, the more intense the relationship, the stronger the chord.

Sometimes even after the relationship ends, the cord stays attached. An open energetic connection continues and if we’re not aware of it, we can still feel the other persons emotions and beliefs.

Besides the fact that this can limit the amount of closure we can experience in a relationship, letting this cord remain intact can leave us with a continued sense of sadness while creating feelings of lethargy as our own energy is sapped.

Energetically cutting the cord can help you separate yourself from old baggage, unnecessary attachments, and release you from connections that are no longer serving you. 
 Finding and cutting unwanted attachments is relatively simple, that can be done in a relaxed state when you are clear and a strong intention to release the energy between you and someone else.

You can do this by yourself, or with the help of someone else. If you choose to do it by yourself — these are the steps to take:

1. To begin, breathe deeply and perform a simple centering meditation.

2. When you are ready, visualize or sense the energies that are connecting you to the other person.

3. Run your fingers across the top of you abdomen to cut the cord of energy you wish to sever.

4. Visualize the cord being cleanly cut. This usually only takes a couple of minutes.

5. When you’re done, if you feel that cutting the chord has left spaces in your own energy field, then visualize those spaces being filled with healing sunlight.

It’s important to remember that cutting a cord with someone is not a replacement for doing emotional work. It can, however, be an enrichment of that work upon its completion.

If you’re not comfortable doing this work by yourself, find someone to support you as you release this energy. This is a service I provide to my clients.

In any case, cutting an energetic relationship cord should always be viewed as a positive and nurturing act.

By cutting the energetic cords that no longer need to be there, we are setting yourselves and others free from the connections that no longer serve us.

If you’d like to discuss this or explore any of your emotions and/or feelings, you are welcome to email me at to set up a free 30 minute conversation or visit my website:

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