This time of year can be challenging for those of us that prefer longer days of daylight. Depending on the altitude and climate where we live, there may be snow, or rain, or wind, or just plain cold.
We may have parts of us that truly hate the cold, and other parts that don’t mind it if we don’t have to go out in it. We may hate the thought of driving on treacherous roads or walking on icy surfaces but love looking at the crystals and snow on the limbs of the trees.
Those of us who love this time of year, we may have parts that like to stay inside and enjoy indoor activities. We may have parts of us that want to snuggle under a blanket on the couch and get caught up on movies or read a good book. Another part of us may love this time year because we can stay inside and play games with friends/family.
Although we may be challenged in adapting to the change of seasons many of us identify with parts on both sides of this polarity.
The trick is realizing that ALL parts of us are welcome and it’s up to us to help all of our parts get their needs met even in difficult times.
This first step is to take the time to listen inside. This is the time to decipher how all of our parts feel about these circumstances? Are some of them afraid, or sad, or even angry?
While we can’t change the weather, we can certainly feel our feelings about it. We can make sure each of our parts realizes that we’re willing to listen to all of their feelings.
The next step is to see what they think they need from us and decide whether or not we can meet their needs. Sometimes it might help to find an indoor place that feels inviting (like the botanical gardens or a large flower shop).
We might have parts that want to venture out no matter what the weather is like- they might just need some excitement or fresh air. When we’re listening to their needs we can make sure we have the rights clothes and footwear for what they want before we set them loose. Once we’ve determined that we’re dressed appropriately and then we can try it out, just to let our parts have a little adventure.
There are bound to be inner disagreements, this is when we step in as the adult and make compromises. Maybe we divide our days up, letting different parts get their needs met at different times.
The key is to ensure that all of our parts feel like their needs, wants and desires have been heard, taken into consideration, and the “adult” part of us has made the decision on which action is appropriate at that given time. It’s amazing how quickly those internal conflicts calm down when each part feels like it has been respected.
The next step is to get the support you need to take the actions. You may need support to overcome a limiting belief, or an unconscious fear, or for that matter a conscious fear you need some help facing.
If this resonates with you — I’m here to help
If you’d like to discuss this or explore any of your values, emotions, and/or feelings, you are welcome to email me at info@SueRelihan.com or visit my website: www.SueRelihan.com to set up a free 30 minute compassionate conversation.