Accept yourself as a whole person, and accept without criticism. This does mean accepting things as “flaws” or “darkness” — on the contrary, compassion means acceptance without casting judgment. There is no “flaw” or “darkness” — your anxieties, insecurities, doubts, disgust, disappointment, envy — etc. None of it is “bad.” It merely is. And self-love means you regard it without judgement. Moving on.