How do you define self-worth?
‘Hey! How are you?’ can certainly be the first question one asks to others at a meeting. And this question is often followed by the question of ‘what do you do’? And here comes the real picture. We attach a lot more value to a person based on what they do. Down the line, that social source of self-esteem no more remains just a social source but becomes one’s reflection of self-worth.
Someone’s occupation and one’s status in life are what drive self-worth and respect in society. During my short span of sabbatical, I have realized that even my source of self-worth and my self-love language is influenced a lot by what I do. Our work is our identity and our identity is the source of our self-worth and esteem. But is this how it should be taken?
Ideally not, but practically that’s how we try to quantify a qualitative aspect of one’s value.
And we all have seen real examples, we all have witnessed situations where how one respects others based on what the latter does, their status, and occupation in life. But if not this way, then how, is the question?
Everyone deserves self-respect. One’s dignity is their birthright and nobody actually, is born with a predetermined occupational status, at least not in today’s time. When we attach a lot of self-respect, self-love, and self-esteem to what we do in the professional sphere and our success or failure in our lives, we have a source of self-respect that fluctuates, which isn’t stable, which is easily influenceable. But when we attach our self-respect and self-esteem beyond our bad decisions, failures, mistakes, and disappointments, our self-worth is intact, at least in theory it does. Practically, it would take time, since our minds are brought up in a particular way.
Always maintaining self-worth and self-love irrespective of how one performs in life is as crucial as we care for a seed that doesn’t grow instantly into a sapling, but stays nourished and remains under preparation to face the outcome.
Just think, how can one stop relying upon, working, loving, and caring for a person who is the ultimate source of power to make it or break it and make it again? It’s YOU. So never let that expression of self-love go away.
Life is beautiful and I’m always grateful for it.