Objectum Sexuality — What Is It?

What is Objectum Sexuality?

This is a rare phenomenon where people have a deep emotional and physical attraction to objects instead of other humans. Only a handful of cases have been documented, but they stem from object attachment rather than more conventional sexual attraction (Domnita Mihaela, 2020). The most famous case was Eija-Riitta Berliner-Mauer, who married “The Berlin Wall” in 1979 (Scally, 2013). Although she still claims to be in love with her husband, she has admitted that she does not have sex with him. However, she does talk about him like he were a person and even refers to herself as Mrs. Mauer. Lest I fail to mention actor David Hasselhoff, who has gone from “Baywatch to Wallwatch,” is the second person married “The Berlin Wall” (Scally, 2013).

Are you sure it’s not just a fetish?

A distinction is sometimes made between objectophilia and fetishism. The primary difference is that, while both fetishes and objectophilias are sexual preferences, the love is directed at an inanimate object or a specific part of that item in a fetishistic relationship. There may be no interest in engaging in any intercourse, whereas people with objectum-sexualities believe that their partner loves them for who they are, not for their body parts — hence, not a fetish. Additionally, other people might use terms like ‘fetishist’ or ‘weirdo’ to describe someone with these attractions, but from reviewing the available research on OS: individuals with OS appear to have more respect for their objects than do fetishists.

  1. People are attracted to non-sexual parts of things, and
  2. Fetishists for particular objects.

The relationship between you and your object

To know more about objectum sexuality and how it works, I started with defining what objectum sexuality is. Although there has been no specific scientific research conducted on objectum sexuality (there are doubts about its existence), it would be classified as a paraphilia by psychologists and sexologists (Domnita Mihaela, 2020). There are numerous types of paraphilias. To review, paraphilia is a condition in which a person needs particular stimuli to become sexually aroused or experience sexual pleasure. Such stimulus often deviates from society’s socially acceptable fetishes (e.g., BDSM).

Advice if you are interested in an OS relationship

Because it’s not something that people are commonly aware of, there can be some strong prejudices towards people who have relationships with objects. I understand how hard it can be to find acceptance in society when your love and likes differ, especially when that difference comes with a taboo attached to it. Therefore, as always, my first piece of advice is to follow your heart, do what makes you happy, and not let others’ opinions stand in your way.

What do you do when your partner loves something else more than you?

True love conquers all, right? But what happens when your partner loves something else more than you? People with OS may feel unable to express their feelings towards specific objects for fear of adverse reactions from friends and family, and that’s okay. Your personal private preference is of your own accord. If you choose to keep your preferences confidential, that’s fine. You shouldn’t be made to feel ashamed or embarrassed if you want to keep them secret.


Cassar, J. (2016, August 28). Objectum sexuality: Erika Eiffel explains her love of… News.com.au. Retrieved March 20, 2022, from https://www.news.com.au/lifestyle/relationships/marriage/the-woman-who-married-the-eiffel-tower-wants-to-set-the-record-straight-about-objectum-sexuality/news-story/16ceeea4086c1b1b70dfac607f04a7d0




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